Identity and Your Fraternal Twin

For most part, throughout this article I refer to a fraternal twin in singular rather than plural "twins." This is to emphasize individuality of each twin. Too often twins are defined only by their being a part of a whole, rather than by their own individual identity. This can be very damaging emotionally, especially during time children are struggling to establish their own self worth and place in world.

Treat your fraternal twin as autonomous, unique child they are. Genetically, fraternal twins are no more similar than their siblings who were born one at a time, and they certainly have personalities all their own. DNA tests can be performed to determine which type of twins your children are - fraternal, identical, etc. Far too often people look too hard for similarities between fraternal twins that simply aren't there - and in meanwhile, they miss opportunity to get to know each twin individually.

Dad-to-be plays a very big role in new baby’s life so he should be a part of baby festivities as well. A couples baby shower (also referred to as coed baby showers) doesn’t just include dad-to-be in honors. It also includes all of other important men in new baby’s life.

Grandfathers, uncles, cousins, and even godfathers will be able to join in a couples baby shower as well. Baby showers normally consist of cutesy decorations and silly games. But when you are having a couples baby shower, you will probably want to make a few adjustments. You still want to have baby decorations since it is a celebration of a baby at your couples baby shower. But you might want to refrain from using frilly decorations and lean more towards fun ones.

Cutting out baby shower games may be a good idea for coed baby showers. Instead, give male guests some screwdrivers and hammers. Then have them put together gifts such as toys and swings while mom and dad-to-be open presents together.

If this sounds a little too stereotypical for you (me man, you woman, grunt, grunt). Then try playing baby shower games that both men and women will enjoy at your couples baby shower. Have a contest to see who can drink a beer (or other carbonated beverage) out of a baby bottle fastest.

Set up a large grid ahead of time with dates of month when baby is due. You can have guests write their name on date when they think baby will be born. The host or hostess can be responsible for sending a prize to winner after baby comes.