4 Whenever your focus shifts back to way you are behaving ask yourself questions about other person so you need to pay attention to him e.g.

- What does he really mean by that?

- How does he manage to be so boring?

- How does she keep people so entranced with her words?

5 Use your imagination to change your mood and to keep your mind too occupied to be self-conscious.

You could for example imagine that people you are talking to are wearing no clothes or inappropriate clothes. Why not have some fun, feel good and still enjoy a good conversation?

You owe it to yourself to find as many ways as possible to feel good. As I have said before excellent communication skills are more dependant on your mental and emotional states than on clever language patterns.

6 Use affirmations to condition a new belief about your ability to be relaxed and other conscious. For example:

- I am fascinated by way people talk - I give my complete attention to whoever I talk to - I am an excellent conversationalist - I feel fantastic when I meet new people

But how do we do it?

By thinking consciously out of box. Let us take example of a bad habit. How do you correct a bad habit? Simply by replacing it with a good habit. The action that constitutes good habit is consciously repeated so many times that it becomes ingrained in our sub-conscious mind. Then it becomes a natural good habit.

For example smoking is a bad habit. This can be replaced by good habit of not smoking simply by making a consious effort to overcome urge to smoke. When this is done repeatedly it becomes a habit and urge to smoke is greatly reduced.

There is no reason why anyone should live within self-imposed limitation. Simply by modifying conscious thinking one can change oneself.

First step is to decide where you want to go, what you want to achieve, what you want to become. Decide upon target without worrying about means. Then keep reminding yourself by conscious thinking that you deserve to attain target and that you are going to achieve it.

Call it day dreaming if you like, but it should be done with clear sense of purpose. If done with single-minded intention it has potential of modifying sub-conscious mind. Then impossible happens. Sub-conscious mind again conspires with surroundings to see that new self-image is achieved. Doors suddenly seem to open and new means present themselves. Solutions to problems appear out of nowhere. Actually they were all within you and now they get a chance to surface out because you are seeking them out.

It is essential to keep trying whole-heartedly until goal is reached. Then go for higher goal. By reminding yourself that you deserve to attain goal you gain confidence and work with positive frame of mind. This is a proven formula for success.

Best wishes for your success.

Sanjay Johari

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