The secret then to dealing with this problem is to become other conscious.

If all you do is shift your focus from self to others you will communicate better, perform better and become a far better listener.

Another positive consequence is that other people will enjoy spending time with you because it is so obvious you give them your complete attention.

Your goal is to become so fascinated by other people that your focus is on what they say, how they say it and why they say it.

6 Tips for Becoming Other Conscious:

1 Pay attention to way people breathe, watch closely and observe relationship between breathing and speaking.

2 Listen not just to what people say but way they say it. Pay very close attention to speech patterns, changes in tempo, volume and tone.

In context of discussion here 'box' is sub-conscious mind. More specifically box is limitation imposed by sub-conscious mind.

Sub-conscious mind is repository of all life's experiences, memories, feelings. We have experienced joy of being appreciated, disappointment of what we consider as a failure, sorrow of losing a chance and myriad other feelings. The feelings and experience of all events in our lives are deposited in our sub-conscious mind.

We may not be able to recall any particular event that occurred in our childhood, but they are all there. All that comes to notice of our conscious mind thru our senses are faithfully passed on to sub-conscious mind where they are permanently stored.

Very early in our lives collection of past events, experience and feelings in our sub-conscious mind becomes so weighty that sub-conscious mind develops control over us influencing our day-to-day affairs, way we assess ourselves, way we behave, way we think, in fact our very being.

Sub-consciously we form opinion about ourselves, we "decide" who we are and how much we "deserve". In a way we take it for granted that we cannot go beyond what we think we are. This creates inhibition, hesitation, a limiting boundary and box.

Our sub-conscious zone is really a comfort zone for us where we tend to go again and again. We take comfort in re-living our past, in re-living our experience even if memories of past are not always pleasant. Everything that happens around us in our present lives tends to reinforce our sub-conscious belief because this is how we interpret present events.

Human potential is really not limited to our self-imposed restrictions. We have power to go beyond limitation defined by box. Yet box constitutes comfort zone we are reluctant to leave. The sub-conscious mind conspires with surroundings to maintain us at present level of being, and we contribute to this effort.