Self Help: Doing Less in More Time

Doing Less in More Time

Written by Jan Marie Dore

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things that chop up our time into Chronos time, and make it seem short and hectic. Perform a self-audit on how you manage your time to focus your attention on how you want to be spending your hours and your days. Start thinking of your time as a “return on investment”. Aim to spend more time in Kyros time by doing less in more time. It’s all about your state of mind. Remember: life is just one long time line, and it’s too short and too precious to be focused mainly on just getting more things done. Here are six steps to help you start doing less in more time:1. Slow DownBegin to slow down your pace. Take a yoga class or go for a walk. Get in touch with repparttar 130069

rhythm of your breath, and slow it down for a few minutes regularly. This will relax your body and your mind. 2. Set GoalsWhen we know where we’re going, it’s easier to make repparttar 130070

decisions on how we will get there, and to make repparttar 130071

important choices on what to do and not to do. Formulate some long range goals that can serve as a compass for your daily decisions. 3. ChooseMake decisions about what is most important for you to do, and how you want to spend your time. Choose to say no. 4. PrioritizePrioritize your choices in order of importance. Choose activities that will give you a sense of belonging and of feeling grounded, balanced, connected, and any other values that are important to you. 5. Let GoLet go of 50% of your commitments. Look at your calendar to see where you’re over-scheduled, and eliminate or start to say no to new engagements. Find ways to delegate or let go of items on your to-do list. 6. Clear The ClutterCreate time to clear repparttar 130072

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way of your daily life. Eliminating clutter in your physical environment will free up energy for you personally, which in turn will expand your feeling of time. If you feel like you don’t have repparttar 130077

time to spend doing this, consider hiring someone to help you get organized. Then you can start with a clean slate.

Jan Marie Dore is a Professional Certified Coach who supports female executives and professionals in living a high quality, more fulfilling life - one that is meaningful, authentic, and a joy to wake up to every day. For free resources and programs on work-life balance and living your best life, visit www.janmariedore.com or sign up for monthly articles by sending an email to balance@janmariedore.com

Addiction to Blame

Written by Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

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As we explored why Allen was so self-abusive, he realized that he believed that if he judged himself enough, he could have control over getting himself to do it “right.” He realized this wasn’t true by an experience he had playing tennis.

“I played last Wednesday and I was in a really good mood. I was just playing for repparttar fun of it, rather than to play well, and I played my best game ever! The very next day I played worse than I have for a long time. I realized that, having done so well on Wednesday, I now wanted control over doing as well on Thursday. As soon as I tried to control it, I lost it.

I want to stop doing this, but I’ve been doing it my while life. How do I stop?”

Stopping any addiction is always a challenge. Changing our thought process is especially challenging. However, there is a process available, but it will work only when you really want to change. Changing from being self-abusive to self-loving has to become more important to you than continuing to try to control yourself through your self-judgments.

1. Pay attention to your feelings. Learn to be aware of when you are feeling angry, anxious, hurt, scared, guilty, shamed, depressed, and so on.

2. Make a conscious decision to learn about what you are telling yourself that is causing your pain, rather than ignoring it, turning to substance or process addictions, or continuing to abuse yourself.

3. Ask yourself, “What am I telling myself that is causing me to feel badly?” Once you are aware of what you are telling yourself, ask yourself, “Am I certain that what I’m telling myself is repparttar 130066 truth, or is it just something I’ve made up?” Then ask yourself, “What am I trying to control by telling myself this?”

4. Once you are aware that you are telling yourself a lie that is causing you to feel badly, and why you are telling it to yourself, ask repparttar 130067 highest, wisest part of yourself, or ask an inner teacher or a spiritual source of guidance, “What is repparttar 130068 truth?” When you sincerely want to know repparttar 130069 truth, it will easily come to you.

5. Change your thinking, now telling yourself repparttar 130070 truth.

6. Notice how you feel. Lies will always make you feel badly, while repparttar 130071 truth brings inner peace. Any time you are not in peace, go through this process to discover what lie you are telling yourself. Eventually, with enough practice, you will be in truth and peace more and more of repparttar 130072 time.

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. is the best-selling author and co-author of eight books, including "Do I Have To Give Up Me To Be Loved By You?" She is the co-creator of a powerful self-help, 6-step emotional and spiritual healing process called Inner Bonding. Learn Inner Bonding now! Visit her web site for a FREE Inner Bonding course: http://www.innerbonding.com or mailto:margaret@innerbonding.com

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