Do You Have an Impossible manager?

Written by Susan Dunn, MA, Emotional Intelligence Coach


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Be willing to considerrepparttar gains and losses. Often someone staying in a bad situation is consideringrepparttar 130263 money. Eventually you will discover what your health – mental and physical – are worth.

If there’s something there that’s meaningful to you it will help.

I’m thinking of a client I’ll call Linda. She was forced to move to another country and take an inferior job when her husband received a promotion and transfer they couldn’t pass up. After coaching she said to me, “I understand now if I let this berepparttar 130264 excuse for not achieving, that will become a pattern.” She quit feeling sorry for herself and started working with what was possible.

4.ARE YOU IN THE LOOP?

One thing that can make a bad manager tolerable is if there is a loop ofrepparttar 130265 other persuasion and you’re in it. A client I’ll call Maria-Marthe found herself in such a situation. There was a core group working for an incompetent and disparaging manager. They could give each other “consensual validation” about what was going on. There is strength in numbers.

In this case, while you won’t change some things aboutrepparttar 130266 manager, your group can bring pressure to bear that will make whatrepparttar 130267 manager has in mind more difficult to achieve. If you do this, you can expectrepparttar 130268 manager to become more difficult, as he or she perceives something’s going on he or she isn’t in control of, but your daily work life may be better.

5.THE AGE & CAREER POTENTIAL OF THE MANAGER

Most of us looking to get ahead will consider this first thing. Who’s ahead of me that might be blockingrepparttar 130269 way? In this case you want to know how long this person will likely be there.

Ifrepparttar 130270 manager is young and new, they may not last. Actually these days anyone “new” may not last, regardless of age.

If they have some experience under their belt and seem interested in promoting themselves, they’ll probably be moving on and up.

If they are middle-aged, have been there a while, and are dug in like a tick, consider that they will endure and you will not.

If you use your gut instincts, you can tell who is on-the-move, and who has moved in to stay. You can also tell how important this particular manager is to those above him or her. If they are liked by superiors, and a confrontation should occur, they’ll be staying and you’ll be leaving.

Paying attention to things like this will make a difference in your career.

6.SUPPORT & LIFE SKILLS

Whatever your job, whatever your manager, you need support and you need to develop your emotional intelligence. Any difficult or challenging situation is more tolerable if you have resilience, creativity, interpersonal skills, and a support network.

Hiring a coach at this time can move you light years ahead. Using a coach, an outside expert advisor, will help you interpretrepparttar 130271 situation realistically. If you work with a certified emotional intelligence coach, you will also acquire a set of competencies with beneficial long-term results. This will not berepparttar 130272 last difficult situation you face in your career.

7.CHANGE DEPARTMENTS OR JOBS

Ifrepparttar 130273 problem goes with you, it’s you and you need to get some coaching!

©Susan Dunn, MA, Certified Emotional Intelligence Coach, http://www.susandunn.cc . I teach individuals emotional intelligence through individual and group coaching, workshops, Internet courses and ebooks – http://www.webstrategies.cc/ebooklibrary.htm. ). A total program for personal and professional development. mailto:sdunn@susandunn.cc for FREE ezine. I train and certify emotional intelligence coaches. Email me for information.


Speak With a Relaxed Body and Mind

Written by Sandra Schrift


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6. Rehearse, rehearse, rehearse. Talk out loud, and walk around while you practice. Userepparttar same physical energy you plan to use onrepparttar 130261 day of your presentation.

7. Exercise is antidote to stress. Arrive early and take a brisk walk for at least five minutes. If it is raining or snowing outside, you can still do some body stretches.

8. Abstain from caffeine and alcohol before you speak. You don’t need more jitters. Always wear your favorite outfit and use attractive colors. Women, go simple onrepparttar 130262 jewelry. Avoid too much black and white.

9. The Coach Sez... Most of all, enjoy yourself and have a fun. SMILE. After all, aren’t you glad to be there? The sign of a mature adult is that you are not taking yourself too seriously

10. For trembling hands, place your hand sonrepparttar 130263 side of your chair and count to 10 as you try to liftrepparttar 130264 seat. This is an isometric exercise that works and nobody will notice you doing it.

11. Don’t be perfect. Give yourself permission to make mistakes, No one is perfect in real life. Getrepparttar 130265 butterflies in your stomach to fly in formation. That’s who you convert your stress into speaking power!

12. Reduce your nervousness by taking several deep breaths immediately before you’re introduced. And for you chocoholics, eat some chocolate to relax your vocal chords.

13. If you experience dry mouth, chew your tongue to increase saliva flow. Singers do this. Close your lips and bite down onrepparttar 130266 entire surface. Always have a glass of tepid(not cold) water nearby.

14. Focus on a friendly face inrepparttar 130267 audience. Pretend you are having a conversation, rather than giving a speech. Just be yourself.

15. Here is a vocal warm-up exercise used atrepparttar 130268 Royal Academy of Dramatic Arts in London. Say, PaPaPaPa, BaBaBaBa, TaTaTaTa, DaDaDaDa, KaKaKaKa, GaGaGaGa. Then do it backwards. (Courtesy of Robert and Rande Gedaliah)

Sandra Schrift 13 year speaker bureau owner and now career coach to emerging and veteran public speakers who want to "grow" a profitable speaking business. I also work with business professionals and organizations who want to master their presentations. To find out HOW TO MAKE IT AS A PROFESSIONAL SPEAKER, go to http://www.schrift.com/success_resources.htm Join my free bi-weekly Monday Morning Mindfulness ezine http://www.schrift.com/monday.htm


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