Common Fear #2: Going Blank

This is another trick played by your overly-nervous brain. To stop yourself from becoming so nervous that you go blank, or even to remove any fear that you may go blank, bring a “backup” copy of your wedding vows on cue cards that you can slip into your pocket. Make sure they are very crisp and neat looking so that you won’t hesitate to use them if you have to, and write clearly on them so that you won’t get stuck due to sloppiness.

Common Fear #3: Blushing, Dry Mouth, and Shaking.

These are extremely common physical responses to being nervous and having to perform in front of others. However, even if they do begin to occur, you can bring yourself to a calmer state where these physical symptoms will begin to fade. Try to ignore blushing and shaking as much as possible and just concentrate on your vows and how much you love person to whom you are making those vows. With regards to dry mouth, drink lots of water beforehand, and try not to think about it. As long as you concentrate on what you’re doing, instead of fact that you are blushing, shaking, or have a dry mouth, they will actually begin to resolve themselves quite quickly.

Common Fear #4: Having Someone Heckle

This is a common fear, but it simply doesn’t happen at weddings. Remind yourself that everyone there with you is hoping very best for you and your future spouse. They are all nervous right along with you and wouldn’t dream of saying anything but best wishes for your future together. The closest they will come to “heckling” is sending a mental prayer to provide you strength and courage to continue so that you may enjoy long and happy lives together.

Common Fear #5: Being Judged

The people attending your wedding are all people who know you, like or love you, and who wish you very best. They know how much adrenaline is running through your system as you say your wedding vows, and wouldn’t judge you at a time like that; except to think about how well suited you are to love of your life.

How about greeting your guests and family as they come through your front door or walk up your front steps? Using tomato cages for body frames, cover with strong white cloth that will withstand blowing winds, and beautiful snowflakes that fall, and attach earmuffs, vests, and they can even hold an old sled or set of skis for that quick-decision trip through woods.

You can even decorate hot chocolate with whipped topping snowpeople, trace on cookies with icing and snowpeople pancakes are a hit for week-end brunch. The possibilities are endless and are only reigned in by your time and willingness to spend a few minutes in land of Frosty and friends. So gather up grandma and grandpa, aunts, uncles, children, cousins, and whoever else is within reach and start creating a whole family of snow friends to share your wintry days, even though it might be sunshiny bright with nary a cloud in sky, but fun will just "melt" away after holiday days. ENJOY! ©Arleen M. Kaptur 2005 January Arleen's site: http://www.arleenssite.com