Once we're ready to spend time with our partner again, we must recognize that any friendship that we build is a new relationship. It is not an extension or continuation of our romantic relationship. We will need to start slowly, and to build up a new level of trust. It will take some time to make sure we're using appropriate checklists. We can't expect same kind of support or commitment in a friendship as we did in a romantic relationship. By same token, we may find that we could tolerate certain behavior from a lover, but that we won't accept it from a friend.

In many ways, friendships are far more demanding than romantic relationships. We look for a higher level of shared interests and compatibility with our friends than we do with our romantic partners. We may discover that our former lovers don't make cut as friends--and there's nothing wrong with that. We have a much easier time letting friends drift out of our lives than we do with letting go of romantic partners.

You should include some text below your list to go into more detail, and you can modify your list as needed to get your point across. Don’t forget it’s alright to leave a cell blank or to put in a “?” if you have no preference. The purpose of this list is to prioritize “critical” and “less critical” aspects that you find appealing, this is very important in order to provide designer with information needed to create an item that will satisfy all or as many of your wants as possible.

Use of Your List

Email particular designer and let them know that you love their piece but you would like to save money if at all possible. Inform designer that you have created a list that they may use to help you achieve your objectives. Be honest and tell designer amount you feel comfortable spending if they can create a plan that you can approve. Take into account that this is as much about building a lasting relationship as any other objective. More than likely you will receive a positive response, designer just love to know what their customers like to see. Send your list only if requested, you are half way there. You have successfully started a professional dialogue and any designer will try to earn your business, within reason. Keep in mind that most good designers will refuse to use certain materials; this is a good quality and helps designer to establish a certain quality. If things work as you have hoped you will be instructed as to how designer would like to proceed. Be prepared to send full price for item before it is actually created but know that it was your suggestions that have guided design of an item that you can take special pride in wearing or giving as a special gift.

If your designer cannot help you, which should only be case if you have asked for too much and indicated a price that is too small, you still have options at your disposal. Look at your list and you will discover that it also has excellent keyword phrases in order of importance that you can use in your favorite search. If you use this option consider too that you already have a list, and maybe with just a little editing (or not), you can start process over until you find a designer that can make you happy.

Best of luck, you can find that special piece of jewelry that really speaks to you. And always remember “ask and ye shall receive.”