Can We Still Be Friends?Written by Kevin B. Burk, Author of The Relationship Handbook
Even when we know it's time to end a romantic relationship, we're often reluctant to let go of our partners completely. We've shared so much of our lives with our partner, it seems almost callous to simply cut them out of our lives--especially if we're ending relationship on good terms. It's natural that we want to hold onto loving and supportive part of romantic relationship, and simply let go of parts that aren't serving us. This is entirely possible: we can remain friends with our former lovers. We both need to want to build a friendship, however. If we choose to stay friends with a former romantic partner, we will have to establish new boundaries and expectations in relationship. The old checklists are no longer appropriate, and it may take some time to make a successful transition to new relationship. It's best, in fact, if we do not spend any time together once we've officially ended romantic relationship. A clean break is essential. We need time to separate our life from our partner's. We need to reestablish our own boundaries and our own identity. And we need to spend a little time mourning death of romantic relationship. It takes time for emotional connections to adjust, and it takes time for us to gain perspective on entire relationship.
| | Reduce the Cost of Your JewelryWritten by Kathleen Badeaux
You probably feel that to cut cost of your jewelry you must give up some beauty, not always true. Let’s say for instance that you have found a necklace that really is appealing but cost is a bit more than your budget will allow. There are a few options that you can investigate with this particular necklace rather than just giving up on jewelry or even more dangerous, spending more than you had planned. This approach requires a little work on your part but can pay off immediately. As an added benefit principles here may not only help you get jewelry that is outside of your budget but could also reduce cost of jewelry that you may be prepared to purchase, now wouldn’t that be something to brag about! Obviously objective is to save you money on jewelry that you wish to purchase. It is possible to achieve your objective and benefits to this method are that you spend less and you receive jewelry that is more attractive than you could have ever wished. The trick, and it’s not a hard one, is to find a designer that is willing to work with you. Using these methods you can prioritize most important aspects, prioritize least important aspects, suggest possible replacements for less important aspects, and offer a possible wish list if your designer can save enough to include items you would like to see. I have included a short catalog for your convenience that will transform these methods into actions; you can modify procedures to whatever fits in your comfort zone.Create Your List Your first course of action is to write down “critical” components / characteristics that attracted you to this particular piece of jewelry. Next you will want to write down all components / characteristics you notice that are “less critical”. You can, but it’s not required, suggest replacements to areas that are not as critical or perhaps areas where attractiveness won’t be diminished if a less costly item is replaced where a more costly item exists. Keep your budget in mind and remember this is all according to your preferences with or without input from anyone else Finally, include a wish list, you must keep your budget in mind but here is an area where you can include components / characteristics or a pattern that may be possible and would increase your appreciation of jewelry. Check your work. It is very important to review you work up to this point, look at your list and make updates if needed. Be honest and realistic for best results. All hard work is now completed; it’s time to have some fun. Create a list combining all information you’ve prioritized. I have included an example with sample information for your review. Name of Jewelry Piece “Critical” A – Description B – Description C – Description “Less Critical” – (Replace?) Clasp – (Same size, less costly) Silver Beads – (Less number) Chain – (Remove) Charms – (Install type – smaller) Wish List Swarovski Crystals More spacers
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