To be complete with your parents means to be both free of negative feelings and to feel compassion toward them. Can you say both are true for you?

If you can, congratulations. You are a member of a very small minority. If you are not free of negative feeling toward your parents or/and if you do not feel compassion for them, you have some completion work to do. That is if you want a long-term, healthy, thriving relationship.

The question is, how do you get complete?

The first thing to know about completion is that it is not just a feeling that will one day appear. There are steps that can be taken to generate a feeling of completion. What stands between you and having a great relationship is taking these steps. Watch for these steps in my newsletter over next few weeks.

Your Relationship Coach, Rinatta Paries www.WhatItTakes.com

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Low Hanging Fruit Are there a couple of items that you can just take care of this second and then they'd be done? Make phone calls, send emails, put ball in someone else's court. You'll feel great.

Find Out, Decide, Do Look over your hot list and figure out what kind of action is required. Do you need to get information, make a decision, or just do it. Often an item stays on a To Do list because this step hasn't been addressed. Make sure every item on your list has a verb attached.

Treat Yourself So you can't stall any longer. It's time to do work. Make it pleasurable. Combine something you hate with something you enjoy. Listen to music while you wash kitchen floor. Promise yourself a hot bath or coffee with a friend when desk is cleared off. Have someone who truly understands what you've accomplished say congratulations with deep sincerity.

So that's secret of my success. I'll always be a grasshopper in my heart, but I've come to appreciate a day to day sense of accomplishment. That surge of panic when I do something at last minute has a certain appeal but it can't beat satisfaction of crossing something off your list.