Being Optimistic v. Wearing Rose-Colored GlassesWritten by Susan Dunn, MA, Emotional Intelligence Coach
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When Melanie got sick, she just hoped it would go away and didn't see a doctor. When someone mistreated her she wished it away, or convinced herself that she was misperceiving, or pretended it wasn't happening. When it became apparent her company was failing and that most would be fired, everyone started to interview for a new job except Melanie. She kept thinking it wouldn't happen and everything would work out well. This was flying in face of reality.KEY POINT "Attitude is more important than past, than education, than money, than circumstances, than what people do or say. It is more important than appearance, giftedness, or skill." ~ Charles Swindoll BENEFITS When you use learned optimism instead of rose-colored glasses you know when to continue and when not to. Learned optimism is facilitator of all emotional intelligence competencies and makes your life work better. Wearing rose-colored glasses keeps you out of touch with reality, and unable to be proactive or responsive when you need to.
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KEY POINT When you become overly concerned and caring, you cross a line into what's called an overdriven striving. You focus on it too much and can affect your own thinking and functioning, as well as that of others. You demand too much and usually get too little. It's exhausting to everyone concerned. BENEFITS We are truly helpful to ourselves and to others when care enough, but not too much. It’s important to have faith and confidence in others, and give them room to breathe, grow and blossom. RELATED DISTINCTIONS Excellence vs. Perfectionism Managing vs. Controlling Overseeing vs. Hovering Having faith in others v. Having faith only in yourself Work with a certified emotional intelligence coach to improve your EQ skills and you’ll have better relationships at work and at home.
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