All You Need Is Love, Is Not True

Written by Dr. Dorree Lynn


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Consequences imply that you are both consciously aware of your words, attitudes, and behavior andrepparttar impact or meaning it will have forrepparttar 126300 other. We all act in ways that are familiar to us. Learning how these habits, thoughts, and feelings will be interpreted byrepparttar 126301 other, is always part of a loving relationship.

Commitment means just that. You are both committed to your love and he or she isrepparttar 126302 most special person in your life. A major problem in this arena, especially in relationships where one orrepparttar 126303 other has a history of being burned, is learning how to “claim”repparttar 126304 other and letrepparttar 126305 world know that they are special to you. One reason married people wear wedding bands it to sing out to all that they are out of circulation and that they are committed to someone they love.

Conflict Resolution does not mean that you are not supposed to argue or disagree. It means that you need to learn how to resolve your differences in a positive way. The idea is not to belittlerepparttar 126306 other, but rather to exchange your frustrations in an open way and come to an agreement. Both people may be right. It is learning how you can each get what you want, instead of being right that is crucial.

Communication, communication, communication. Asrepparttar 126307 military motto goes: “The price of freedom is eternal vigilance.” A loving relationship takes work, constant communication about what is wonderful and aboutrepparttar 126308 thorns in one’s side. Without open communication, a truly loving relationship can quickly deteriorate.

Think aboutrepparttar 126309 five “C’s” when you think that all you need is love. Check outrepparttar 126310 difference between that concept andrepparttar 126311 reality of a loving relationship.

Life is too hard to do alone,

Dr. D.

Dorree Lynn, PH.D.



Dr. Dorree Lynn is co-founder of the Institute for the Advanced Study of Psychotherapy and a practicing clinician in New York and Washington, DC. Dr. Lynn served on the executive board of the American Academy of Psychotherapists and she is on the editorial board of their publication, Voices. She is also a regular columnist for the Washington, DC newspaper, The Georgetowner. Dr. Lynn is a noted speaker and well known on the lecture circuit.


Education For Our Troubled Times

Written by Dr. Dorree Lynn


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What our government “professors” haven’t yet learned is to introduce warnings and to then introducerepparttar second part, which is to give people something to do, to explain terms such as terrorism, give out information, facts and numbers, create “containers” for people to contain irrational feelings and to suggest activities for people to do. Sometimes people confuse activity with productivity. But, action can also be used as a mechanism to stop thinking only about one’s self. Our government officials and newscasters need to be educated to do their jobs even better and teach advanced courses.

It’s just common sense, or as one of my client’s always reminds me, common sense is not really common at all. Mothers know that if they tell their young child to “watch out”repparttar 126299 child will expectrepparttar 126300 boogie man, become terrified, not let go of her leg, nor go to school. The child will not want to leaverepparttar 126301 house and inrepparttar 126302 most non-jargoned term, will become a mess. Whereas, if a mom says to her young one, “Watch out when crossingrepparttar 126303 street. Cross atrepparttar 126304 green light, look both ways before crossing, and hold your partner’s hand,repparttar 126305 child will, understand what is expected of him or her, feel empowered and continue living using appropriate caution and care. The young boy or girl does not need a lexicon and diatribe ofrepparttar 126306 differences between cars, trucks and buses. Allrepparttar 126307 child needs to know is how to cross atrepparttar 126308 green light.

If we userepparttar 126309 analogy that elected officials are akin to parents or professors and we,repparttar 126310 general public, though not children, look to them for guidance, then it is incumbent for them to become better teachers. Officials and media disseminators need to take a common sense lesson from mothers with common sense. National security secrets do not need to be revealed. But, if those in charge of disseminating information learn how to not drop verbal bombs we will all be able to move up one grade and to start takingrepparttar 126311 next level of courses we need for a saner future.

Life is too hard to do alone,

Dr. D.

Dorree Lynn, PH.D.



Dr. Dorree Lynn is co-founder of the Institute for the Advanced Study of Psychotherapy and a practicing clinician in New York and Washington, DC. Dr. Lynn served on the executive board of the American Academy of Psychotherapists and she is on the editorial board of their publication, Voices. She is also a regular columnist for the Washington, DC newspaper, The Georgetowner. Dr. Lynn is a noted speaker and well known on the lecture circuit.


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