Become armed to teeth with "effort" attitude in mind, not winning at all costs, then, if all you end up with is ants in your pants, you won't feel like you're one French fry short of a happy meal.

A Force To Be Reckoned With!

Losing is NOT failure! Burn that in your memory. Anytime you test yourself, sorry to say, you will lose a percentage of time. But, that is not failure! That is only a face a mother could love. Nah.. I'm just kidding, don't you get mad at me. Keep smiling now. :>)

That percentage of times you lose is only to make you smarter, wiser, and more compassionate, not to make you blow your stack, and confess "that's just my dumb luck", and go looking for a good place to lie down and have a heart attack.

I'm not saying you should be a good loser now. Because face it, a good loser is still a loser. Don't ever develop a loser mindset. Always say everyday, "it's ok to lose, but I'm a winner! This little voice in your head will keep your attitude adjusted in right direction and, keep you focused on your efforts and not on your conclusions.

READ MY LIPS: You Can't Control Your Conclusions!

All you can do is control your efforts! The three rules of real estate are location, location, location. The three rules of losing are learning, learning, learning. You NEVER learn from your successes. You only learn from your losses.

Let me ask you a question! Are you good at something, I mean really good? Maybe golf, tennis, basketball, etc. If you are, do you remember when you reached a plateau? Did you notice how game became boring? Like old hat? What did you do then?

You had to move up a little bit. You had to reach and struggle for next level. Then what happened? Probably you began losing some. Now that was a strange experience for you wasn't it? Up till then you had been tucked safely away in your comfort area and got bored.

Bored To Tears!

When we test ourselves like this, experience will be frustrating, challenging, exciting and yet fulfilling. You will lose, you will try again, you will lose again, you will try again and you will win. But, hardest road to that win will be with attitude of winning at all costs.

Why? Because total focus is on outcome, not effort. Have you ever seen John McEnroe blow up in a tennis match? That behavior focused on outcome. Have you ever seen someone lose in a contest and go cheerfully to winner and congratulate them with all smiles? That behavior is focused on effort.

It's ok to lose, but I'm a winner! Say it everyday and visualize word "winning" or "winner", entering into your mind and flowing all through your body.

Follow Your Heart!

Out of losing will come some of your greatest successes. Out of losing will come some of your greatest triumphs. By learning how to lose, you will not be defeated by defeat. Richard Vegas © Richard Vegas is a popular recording artist and internet marketing professional. He invites you to subscribe to his FREE weekly ezine "Wing-Tips" Teaching The Success System That Never Fails, at: http://www.1-work-at-home-based-business-opportunities.com You may also hear some of Richard's free music at: http://www.richardvegas.com

I also decided to develop my conscious or unconscious skills. I studied NLP, Timeline, Covey techniques and many more. I found all of these techniques fascinating.

I enthusiastically traveled both healing and practitioner routes. After three years I discovered, they were same route. As I grew within myself I discovered they were all parts of a toolkit to help in process of healing.

It was always about my personal growth. Whether I was working upon myself or another person, I was always facing a part of my own transition. Whatever issue, I felt that when I was ready, I was always supplied with true answer. I often did not understand question posed, but trusted in answer. The gift, my faith began to take on a more powerful role in my life.

People ask me what has changed in my life. All I can say is that I have experienced and continue to experience greater feelings of peace, joy and happiness than ever before in my life.

I felt my passed was spent swimming against current. Now I spend a great deal of time in still warm waters. At times I also experience joy of being ‘in flow' and moving with current; an astonishing experience.

If I get down, it is only for short periods before I bounce back. In past depressions stayed with me for days or even weeks. In fact as I look back with hindsight upon my earlier life I believe I felt depressed for most of it.

I have stopped blaming other for events that happen in my life and take responsibility for every aspect of my life. I sometimes knee-jerk into blame, but I soon recover and see it differently. A most empowering feeling

As I felt many of fears and worries leave my life, I was better able to be me and empathize with others.

My role was only ever to heal myself. Also to help others, if I can, do same.

Many of us travel a path of pain and depression. Whilst buried in this illusion, many just wish to create or own physical demise, as I did.

If you are in this place there is another way. You do not have to develop a life threatening illness to begin change. It is up to you.

Written by John Mitchell, Professional Life & Power Coach and creator of online life change programme Lifeline web address www.satoriforlife.com