A Blessing In Disguise!

One thing that a big honcho will never tell you is that; "it's ok to lose". But, speaking as a business man who has lost his pride and ego, I'm here to tell you, it is ok! In fact, it is critical. You see, losing is part of cycle of living.

As Solomon once said, there's a time to live and a time to die; a time to sow, a time to reap. There is a time for everything under sun. And unfortunately, losing is one of them. If some one never loses, how can they improve on what they've done?

They would just lie back, take it easy, suck up some suds, and wait on next fortune to fall in their lap so they could go crying all way to bank. But, that guy will never improve because he will never struggle.

But, At The End Of The Day!

To succeed and win everyone will sooner or later fail. I think we have somehow been programmed to think that losing is our enemy. But, all way from business man to elementary school child, losing is a cycle of living.

Losing can be a fantastic teacher, although an aggravating one. Losing can be just thing someone needs at any given point in their life. Losing can bring you wisdom which is far greater than silver and gold.

When Thomas Edison was asked how he was able to deal with ten thousand failures in inventing incandescent light bulb, he said, "I didn't fail; I just found ten thousand ways it wouldn't work."

Think about that wisdom that was passed on to our light bulb manufacturers today, they don't have to go through same failures that Edison went through; he passed it on to them.

As Plain As Black And White!

So, it was Edison's mistakes and wisdom that make silver and gold today for bulb manufacturers. The thing that losing teaches us and this is so important; it teaches us what NOT to do.

There is a God given desire in everyone of us to succeed and win. It is almost as strong as force of self-preservation. This is reason we get our knickers all in a twist when success doesn't come. Say this to yourself three times, "losing is ok, but I'm a winner."

Ah…Crystal Clear!

I read somewhere that Vince Lombardi once said, "winning isn't everything, it's only thing." I read somewhere else that Lombardi didn't say that. What he actually said was, "winning isn't everything, but making effort to win is." Umm.

Now, we've got a horse of a different color. By taking on any project with attitude of "effort", instead of winning at all costs, we spare ourselves self-inflicted mental torment that robs us of joy and makes us want to take a long walk off a short pier.

That last paragraph is so important you should really read it again. Listen: you cannot control outcome; all you can do is control effort!

If you're kind that personally takes all credit and pats yourself on back for every triumph, then remember this; a pat on back is only a few inches from a kick in bu**.

Face This Music!

Somebody also said if you can't accept losing, then you're not qualified to win. Losing is what makes a person fit to win!

In November 1996 I was made redundant from a senior role within Investment banking industry; I felt lost. I looked for a new role in newspapers and with many recruitment agencies, nothing even sparked my interest. No surprise, I was unsuccessful at all interviews, there was not a new job for me.

In February 1997 I got message that changed my life forever.

At insistence of a close friend I had gone to visit Jean Clarke, a Colonic therapist. During first minute of my initial visit to Jean, she said had a message for me, but was dubious about giving me message. I insisted.

The message was that man in front of her (me) felt his life was over and affect of this would be this. Within two years I would become seriously ill and die within five years. Even love of for my wife and two young sons would not be enough to keep me here. I had given none of this personal information to Jean.

I was shaken; Jeans' message resonated with me as no other ever had. After twenty frustrating years in business life I did feel my life was over. I felt I had been there and done it many times over, there was little more left for me to achieve.

The information came to her as a message. There was another message; if I changed my life and turned towards a role of helping people I would have a long and happy life ahead of me.

The veils began to lift from my eyes. I felt I had hope and my life changed that day in that room in South London. I always bless Jean for being my messenger and guide during this period of my life.

I decided to turn my back on my previous professional life and seek a new path. Fear and excitement came in equal measure, as I once again became a student. This time I was an eager and in time a humble student.

For past six years my life has been a rollacoaster of emotion, fear, joy, happiness and loneliness. I knew general direction I had to travel with no idea as to specifics.

I have always been and remain a true skeptic, open-minded and willing to try.

I journeyed to places I could not have imagined myself going. I first became attuned to Reiki healing and found my life changing. I began to link with wonderful enthusiastic people.