Don't be afraid to stand up for your child. Sometimes, because child's progress needs to be discussed at PET, things can sound somewhat negative. It’s vital to ask for good things that are going on with child as well, and when you disagree with something a PET member says, express your feelings. Your child can't do that for himself - he needs you for you to do that for him.

Your child may not be able to tell others what they need. They may not know, themselves. Or they may not have language to express their needs. Or, they may feel intimidated to tell adults what is going on with them even if they do know how to express themselves. It is up to you to help PET understand needs of your child and to speak up for him or her.

Remember, your child's education affects rest of his life, and it’s in your hands. It is a great responsibility, there’s no doubt about it. But you know your child better than anyone else. You are your child's best advocate. You can do it!

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The good news is that love can be kept alive, even in long-term relationships. Love is kept alive when each person is more devoted to learning about being loving to themselves and to each other than to getting love. The moment intention is to get love, controlling behavior takes over. In any given moment, we either want to be loving and share love, or to get love. Trying to get love diminishes love. Being loving and sharing love keeps love alive. Being loving and sharing love means:

• Each person learns to take responsibility for your own feelings rather than making other person responsible for your feelings of worth, lovability, security, happiness, joy or pain.

• Each person has your own and your partner’s highest good at heart. Each of you supports your own and your partner’s joy and well being. Both of you are considerate of other person without giving yourselves up.

• Each person chooses to be honest and authentic about how you feel and what you want and don’t want. You are willing to speak your truth without blame or judgment.

• Each person stays open to learning about your own and your partner’s wants, needs, and fears, especially in conflict.

What keeps love alive is each person’s willingness to do whatever inner work is necessary to keep heart open to loving and learning. Controlling behavior is motivated by fear – of loss of self and loss of other, of engulfment and rejection, of smothering and abandonment. When each person is willing to do inner work necessary to heal these fears, they are able to keep their hearts open more and more of time. Love flows freely when hearts are open to loving and learning.

Practicing Six Steps of Inner Bonding that we teach is a powerful way of doing this inner work. Partners who both consistently practice this process discover great joy of keeping their love alive. Even when it seems that there is no way to get love back, it does come back when both partners are devoted to learning to take loving care of themselves and to sharing their love with each other.

We cannot give to another what we do not have within. Inner Bonding is a process for creating so much love within that it comes spilling out, to be joyously shared with others.