HEALING YOUR ADDICTION TO TALKING

Imagine that you have a child within you – your feeling self - who feels very alone. This child feels alone because you are not paying attention to him or her. Every time you trap someone into listening to you, it is as if you are handing this inner child away for adoption. You want someone else to attend to and approve of this child instead of you accepting this responsibility.

The very fact of doing this is an inner abandonment and is creating aloneness that is at heart of all addictions. By expecting others to listen to you when you don’t listen to yourself, you are giving child within a message that he or she is not important to you. When you do not take time to attend to your own feelings and needs, you are creating inner neediness and emptiness. This inner emptiness is like a vacuum that attempts to suck caring from others. Yet no matter how often others do listen to you, it never really fills you. This is because only you can give your own inner child what he or she needs.

If you were to take some time each day to have a dialogue, either out loud or in writing, with part of you who so needs to be heard, you would discover that you can fill your own emptiness. In addition, if you practice imagining a loving spiritual presence holding you, loving you, listening to you and guiding you, you will no longer feel alone.

As long as you believe that it is someone else’s job to fill you, you will not take time to learn how to fill yourself. As long as you believe that it is okay to trap others and use them to fill yourself, you will continue your talking addiction. Only when you get that it is not loving to yourself or others to expect them to take care of your own inner child – your own feelings and needs - will you start to take on that responsibility.

While you might not believe that you can fill yourself better than others can, you will not know until you try. My personal experience is that when my intention is to take loving care of myself and to fill myself with Love that is God, I feel happy and peaceful. When you choose to take responsibility for meeting your own needs instead of abandoning yourself to others, you will never feel alone.

Noticed how I mention she enrolled on a distance education program moment right after she did some research. What happened was that once she did research, understood how it works, and felt it would be a good decision she jumped right in to it. Now she is back in school pursuing her education and has never being happier. Of course, life is not perfect and she misses having more time for extracurricular activities. However, she understands how important getting an education is. How can she go wrong, If everyday she Is a step closer towards her degree?

So back to you now, what is your life dream? What is stopping you from pursuing after your objective? How can you overcome obstacles? And last but most importantly GET STARTED! Starting a goal that you will commit to is first step to becoming a person of success. once you are done with first step which is often hardest because is when you will confront your internal fears but, at same time it will give you a confidence boost necessary to continue your venture. So stop waiting and get started now.

Good Luck!

Kenia Morales