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We make a mistake if we don’t tell people that it is just as important to invest kindness in
people we meet, and invest our interest in them. There are other kinds of investment accounts besides those that are held by banks. A big bank account won’t make up for loneliness in your old age.
I decided that if I wanted to have as many friends as Doris did, I would have to keep making friends and keep maintaining friendships my whole life. I would have to make friends with people of all ages, including those much younger and much older than me.
Older people confront unique challenges in trying to maintain a satisfying social life. Many people find it difficult to make new friends as they get older.
As people age they often face social, health and monetary challenges. Older people may become less physically mobile. They often have less money to spend on recreation and entertainment.
Older people are also more likely to suffer from depression. They may be physically frail and afraid to go out at night. Even if they remain healthy themselves, aging people experience
deaths of long time friends and spouses, resulting in a shrinking circle of social and emotional support.
In
modern western world, older people are often treated as if their usefulness is finished, and as if what they have to say is not really relevant to
young.
A lot of older people are shocked to discover when they retire at
age of sixty or sixty-five, that
friendships they thought had developed at work do not survive
retirement party.
In many modern societies, older people are socially marginalized, and left to socialize solely with each other. People in North America are much more segregated along age lines than people in some other parts of
world. In North America, teenagers tend to socialize with other teenagers, and older people are expected to make friends with other older people.
No matter where you live, or what your age, you do not need to follow your local society’s dictates about what age your friends should be. You do not need to restrict yourself to making friends only with your own age group.
If you are concerned that you may be lonely in your later years,
time to start doing something about it is now, no matter what your current age might be.
As you grow older, make sure you stay living in
present, not in
past. In your conversations with others, don’t be fixated on who you used to be, or on your current ailments.
Be willing to make many social approaches to others, no matter what
outcome. Stay interested in
current world, stay optimistic, and keep a youthful, open mind.

This article is taken from the new book by Royane Real titled "How You Can Have All the Friends You Want - Your Complete Guide to Finding Friends, Making Friends, and Keeping Friends " Check it out at http://www.royanereal.com