5. I will not injure you by doing your work.

Difficult people are very sly in getting others to carry their load. They ARE difficult precisely because they have refused self-responsibility. We harm adults when we do things for them that they must do for themselves. This NowFact is compassion in action. Truth is never clouded by sentimentality, which is nothing more than cruelty in disguise.

6. I sense a lot of violence in your gloom.

This NowFact is in same category as number 3 above, “I see your rage as childish, not forceful.” It is called “reframing.” Reframing teaches us to see things through an entirely different lens. It is an amazingly effective method for self-renewal.

Difficult people are often gloomy. How often have we tried to cheer one of them up and been bitten? It can be compassionate to say an encouraging word at times. But we have to be wise! Hardened and dedicated difficult people want your cheerful words, not to pick themselves up, but to pull you down with them! Sense violence behind their mask of gloom and you empower yourself.

7. If you want a destructive fight you will have to fight all alone.

A destructive fight is what difficult person is after. It’s what THEY want, not what YOU want. With this NowFact you can stay in your own clear skies.

If you refuse to battle difficult person on their own turf, what can they do about it? The only way they can control you is if you catch negative ropes they toss. Anger, guilt, frustration -- all these negative ropes fall to ground, unclaimed by you, once you learn to leave problem with person who has it.

Conclusion

Remember, these NowFacts are voiced silently within yourself, unless you know you are alone. They help you ignite self-understanding you already possess but have temporarily forgotten. Difficult people seem to have power only when your True Power is temporarily dormant. Wake it up!

Nothing is more beneficial than standing up for what you know to be true. Don’t let world and its drowsy people tell you what is true for you. Tell yourself! Passivity in face of falseness is underlying cause of world’s problems. With NowFacts you reclaim your life with its inherent happiness, intelligence and humor. Nothing is more fun!

People need to understand importance of their roles whether you are running a business or dealing with people in their lives. Yes, it was easiest thing at moment; but in end, this can easily break them off.

So remember, when something seems wrong in your relationship to others always ask yourself; is this effect of what I have caused? How would I react if I were treated this way? How would I feel? Always avoid treating others poorly and remeber famous quote:

“Treat others way you want to be treated”

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