7 Ways to Defang Difficult People and Save Energy By Thomas Russell Difficult people are on
hunt for a quarrel. It’s not personal, usually. It’s just that you happen to be most convenient target.
Difficult people are insecure. They want YOU think and live like THEY think and live. Misery indeed loves company. They feel better if you are tense and unhappy.
What can you do to instantly neutralize their negativity? You cannot stop them from being difficult and demanding. Heaven help you if you try! But you can control your own reactions through amazing power of NowFacts.
What are NowFacts?
Simple, healthy and truthful principles that you voice to yourself silently, in present moment! Speech is powerful! It is your connecting point back to your calm and intelligent center. Speech instantly reminds you of wisdom and power you already possess.
Here are 7NowFacts you can use when difficult people are on prowl. These are secret silent statements you say to yourself:
1. I am not an actor who must obey your script.
The difficult person has a script. In script he writes that you get angry, that you fight with him, that you condemn him, that you get stressful and frustrated. Difficult people want opposition. That is their primary aim! When you employ this NowFact you inform yourself that you have power of choice. You are never compelled to go along with their script. A silent refusal to take bait sends a very powerful signal to difficult person. They get it!
2. I just cannot afford you any more.
This NowFact reminds you that some relationships carry much too high a price. You have to let go. There is no feeling of superiority or hostility. You simply cannot afford relationship any more. It cost too much. You have to move on because you know it is best for YOU and for other person.
3. I see your rage as childish, not forceful.
Here is how you can heal your perceptions. This NowFact reminds you that anger is weakness, not strength. Work with this NowFact and watch it release its treasures of wisdom and self-command. You’ll never again cringe before an angry person.
4. You don’t know it, but I remain at a safe inner distance from you.
Personal growth widens gap between both your own inner negativities and those of others. You see anger from a higher place. Instead of being immersed in it, you’re above it now. You need never descend to a lower level to accommodate an immature adult. With NowFacts, your life is in your power!
