Once we decide to create a life based on what is most important to us, then we must let go outcome and trust that those decisions will bring to us what we need.

If each of us creates a world that fulfills us based on our values, and we feel successful based on internal (and controllable) instead of external (and uncontrollable) rewards, then we can be successful without money, or relationships or any other external gratification.

5. Attract What follows is power of attraction. As you find your life increasingly filled with joy, and happiness, you begin to attract things to you that you need. This may be money or relationships or power.

The difference is that money, relationships and power are not success in themselves, but now you can use these tools to enrich your life as well as others.

"That is not my message. You always insist on reading things into my i-mails that are not there. Let me put it this way. A spark is a small thing. However it initiates an action that powers your car. All I'm saying is that you could easily add a few sparks to your life that would help power your success.

"For example, you could put a watch on some of stuff you send down here. I'm not suggesting a big diet overhaul. Maybe just 10% less fat and an equal increase in vegetables and fruit. No big deal.

"As for friends, you could start becoming a friend to a few people. So what if it takes a little time. A lunch here. A phone call there. It's a great way to enjoy life.

"And to develop a stronger faith walk you need only invest a mere half-hour a day. Read Bible or any good spiritual book. If you're not comfortable with that, read a self-improvement book. Remember, taller you walk closer to God you become."

I was beginning to see some wisdom in what Other-Self was saying but I was still skeptical. "Somehow I get feeling that you're trying to make all this sound more simple than it is. For example, I find it hard to believe that small efforts, or sparks as you call them, can contribute to a large success."

"Fine. Believe what you want. But before you give up on idea you might try out this simple exercise.

"Make a list of all key areas in your life such as Career, Financial, Marriage, Friendships, Spiritual and Health. You might even add one or two of your own.

"Select any areas that are generating only a weak spark or none at all. Be honest. You know which areas these are.

"Then write a list of a few small forward steps to take in each area during next two weeks. No big deal. No heavy stuff. Just small actions."

"Okay...sounds easy enough. But promise me this. If these small action steps turn me into a highly successful and totally well-rounded person, will you stop nagging me with your annoying i-mails?"

"Dude...you won't live that long." ___________________________ ______________

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