Take charge of situation if you want conversation to continue.

4 Stupid Statements Are Allowed!

If you say something stupid it is not end of world. If you try to hide your error then situation can become chaotic very quickly.

It is far better to just admit that you made a mistake. Also, accept that even smart people say stupid things some times.

As long as you accept that you will make mistakes you have nothing to worry about. Expecting yourself to be perfect is unfair and just sets you up for failure.

All you need to do now is to decide how you will deal with these mistakes when they do happen.

5 Enjoy The Silence!

When there is a long silence in a conversation what normally passes through your mind? Do you judge it as bad? Do you feel under pressure to speak?

The other person has created silence with you. Why not wait for him to speak first? Take responsibility off your shoulders. It takes at least two people to have a conversation.

Finally, reason silence can be uncomfortable is because you become self conscious. You become very aware of your own thoughts and feelings

There is one great way to deal with this. Put your attention on something outside of yourself by paying great attention to other person and whatever is going on around you in room.

Become fascinated by what you see and hear and you will forget about your own concerns.

- being abundantly happy

- smiling and genuinely caring about other person

- exuding enthusiasm and excitement

If as you read this you think - hang on, what has this got to do with communication?

It has everything to do with it.

93% of communication is non-verbal. Remember that.

That is why I place so much emphasis on mental and emotional states - if you don´t grasp this, knowing what to say will not matter because you will be gripped by fear, indecision and insecurity.

3 Take Discussion Where You Want it to Go

Many people are far too passive when it comes to making polite conversation.

Why?

Because you have unconscious rules that dictate what is acceptable. You may even have old patterns running in your mind that are no longer appropriate e.g. only speak when spoken to; don´t talk to strangers.

I hereby give you permission to break these rules!

The way to get started with being more adventurous is as follows...

First of all, notice that you have a habit of letting other people dictate flow of conversation.

Then, in a small way start being more proactive and suggest new topics of conversation or new directions to go in.

At this point do not concern yourself with whether or not person you are talking to follows your lead.

Just get comfortable with making suggestions.

If you are already living these principles you are having great success in all your dealings with other people.

If you are not -- you have room to get even better.

Listen!.

I was really not much good at dealing with people until I committed to mastering this crucial life skill.

You can get better and you will when you aim to improve even a little each and every day AND you apply proven techniques.