7. Don’t judge your emotions.

Just let them be. The more you consider it bad to feel sad or mad, more you’ll fight it, and more power it will have over you. We all prefer what’s called “positive” emotions, but there are others. Make them all welcome for their time. They all go away.

8. Don’t worry.

Worrying accomplishes nothing positive, and can have very detrimental affects. You’re already under stress, and when you worry, you can turn it into strain. Worrying stresses you physiologically and adds to problem.

9. Work with an EQ coach who has mastered change.

In light of fact that resilience must be acquired, you might interview a potential coach to see what major crises and changes he or she has mastered. The “untested” can only talk theoretically, and you’ll hear difference, and you'll be living difference.

10. Learn optimism.

EQ coaches teach competency called “optimism.” The level of your optimism matters in crises (and all time). Scientific literature supports that optimistic people are more likely to reach their potential, handle crises better, recover better from major illnesses, live 19% longer – and undoubtedly enjoy living more. Get with it!

11. Last but not least, if you’re going through a major change, prepare to be a stronger person when it’s over – IF you have developed your resilience. “Adversity is another way to measure greatness of individuals,” said Lou Holtz, American football coach. “I never had a crisis that didn’t make me stronger.”

This personal growth and triumph is optimal result of going through change, but we all know people who cratered under strain. Develop your EQ and your crises can make you stronger, not weaker.

Just let them be. The more you consider it bad to feel sad, more you’ll fight it, and more power it will have over you. We all prefer what’s called “positive” emotions, but there are others. 9.Hire a certified emotional intelligence coach.

A certified EQ coach is trained to help you at meta-level, which is what you need. At times of change and transition, you need to deal with many things – relationships AND career AND money AND your emotions AND life balance AND your business AND your kids. When one thing changes in your life, it will affect everything in your life, and scope involves more than a Career Coach, or Life Balance Coach, or Relationship Coach or Small Business Coach has been trained for. The most important thing to deal with will be emotions. In order to function and move forward, you need to manage your emotions and those of those around you, who will also have been affected. This falls within wide scope of a certified EQ coach. TOOLS

The best tool you can have for handling transitions is a high EQ. Tips are tips, but a tool is something you need to get job done. Why use a kitchen knife when you could be using a power screwdriver? Resilience, an EQ Competency One of EQ competencies, resilience is particularly important. Resilience means being able to bounce back from losses, rejections, and adversities while remaining hopeful. The worse outcome of an adversity is to become bitter and cynical. Developing your EQ is a preventative measure, guarding your attitude and ability to enjoy your life in future. You will learn how to weather storms on an as-needed basis!

Building your EQ means building your ability to keep “stress” from becoming “strain.” Think of an expansion bridge. It’s built resilient (about to bounce) so when wind blows, it won’t snap. If it were rigid, “stress” might turn into “strain” and it would buckle under pressure.

See difference? You want, need, and will always have “stress” in your life, but “strain” can damage you.

WHERE TO BEGIN?

1. Take an EQ foundational course. ( http://www.susandunn.cc/courses.htm ).

2. Work with a certified EQ coach.

You must work with someone trained in field. You can’t “just” read about EQ. Taking a course is a necessary first step to acquaint you with terminology and to reframe what you already know, but then you must put these things into practice in real life. You will improve with feedback. TO PREVAIL

Last but not lease, if you’re going through a major change, prepare to be a stronger person when it’s over – IF you have developed your resilience.

“Adversity is another way to measure greatness of individuals,” said Lou Holtz, American football coach. “I never had a crisis that didn’t make me stronger.”

In light of this, you might interview a potential coach to see what major crises and changes they have mastered. The “untested” are only talking theoretically, and you’ll hear difference. This personal growth and triumph is optimal result of going through change, but we all know people who cratered under strain.

Develop your emotional intelligence and your crises can make you stronger, not weaker. Get proactive. Give emotional intelligence a try!