11 Ways to Master Change

Written by Susan Dunn, MA, Emotional Intelligence Coach


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7. Don’t judge your emotions.

Just let them be. The more you consider it bad to feel sad or mad,repparttar more you’ll fight it, andrepparttar 101599 more power it will have over you. We all prefer what’s calledrepparttar 101600 “positive” emotions, but there are others. Make them all welcome for their time. They all go away.

8. Don’t worry.

Worrying accomplishes nothing positive, and can have very detrimental affects. You’re already under stress, and when you worry, you can turn it into strain. Worrying stresses you physiologically and adds torepparttar 101601 problem.

9. Work with an EQ coach who has mastered change.

In light ofrepparttar 101602 fact that resilience must be acquired, you might interview a potential coach to see what major crises and changes he or she has mastered. The “untested” can only talk theoretically, and you’ll hearrepparttar 101603 difference, and you'll be livingrepparttar 101604 difference.

10. Learn optimism.

EQ coaches teachrepparttar 101605 competency called “optimism.” The level of your optimism matters in crises (and allrepparttar 101606 time). Scientific literature supports that optimistic people are more likely to reach their potential, handle crises better, recover better from major illnesses, live 19% longer – and undoubtedly enjoy living more. Get with it!

11. Last but not least, if you’re going through a major change, prepare to be a stronger person when it’s over – IF you have developed your resilience. “Adversity is another way to measurerepparttar 101607 greatness of individuals,” said Lou Holtz, American football coach. “I never had a crisis that didn’t make me stronger.”

This personal growth and triumph isrepparttar 101608 optimal result of going through change, but we all know people who cratered under strain. Develop your EQ and your crises can make you stronger, not weaker.

©Susan Dunn, MA, Emotional Intelligence Coach, http://www.susandunn.cc . I teach individuals to master change and transform their lives through the power of emotional intelligence. Individual coaching, Internet courses, and ebooks (http://www.webstrategies.cc/ebooklibrary.html ).Mailto:sdunn@susandunn.cc for free EQ ezine.


How to Thrive with Change

Written by Susan Dunn, MA, Emotional Intelligence Coach


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Just let them be. The more you consider it bad to feel sad,repparttar more you’ll fight it, andrepparttar 101598 more power it will have over you. We all prefer what’s calledrepparttar 101599 “positive” emotions, but there are others. 9.Hire a certified emotional intelligence coach.

A certified EQ coach is trained to help you atrepparttar 101600 meta-level, which is what you need. At times of change and transition, you need to deal with many things – relationships AND career AND money AND your emotions AND life balance AND your business AND your kids. When one thing changes in your life, it will affect everything in your life, andrepparttar 101601 scope involves more than a Career Coach, or Life Balance Coach, or Relationship Coach or Small Business Coach has been trained for. The most important thing to deal with will berepparttar 101602 emotions. In order to function and move forward, you need to manage your emotions and those of those around you, who will also have been affected. This falls withinrepparttar 101603 wide scope of a certified EQ coach. TOOLS

The best tool you can have for handling transitions is a high EQ. Tips are tips, but a tool is something you need to getrepparttar 101604 job done. Why use a kitchen knife when you could be using a power screwdriver? Resilience, an EQ Competency One ofrepparttar 101605 EQ competencies, resilience is particularly important. Resilience means being able to bounce back from losses, rejections, and adversities while remaining hopeful. The worse outcome of an adversity is to become bitter and cynical. Developing your EQ is a preventative measure, guarding your attitude and ability to enjoy your life inrepparttar 101606 future. You will learn how to weather storms on an as-needed basis!

Building your EQ means building your ability to keep “stress” from becoming “strain.” Think of an expansion bridge. It’s built resilient (about to bounce) so whenrepparttar 101607 wind blows, it won’t snap. If it were rigid,repparttar 101608 “stress” might turn into “strain” and it would buckle underrepparttar 101609 pressure.

Seerepparttar 101610 difference? You want, need, and will always have “stress” in your life, but “strain” can damage you.

WHERE TO BEGIN?

1. Take an EQ foundational course. ( http://www.susandunn.cc/courses.htm ).

2. Work with a certified EQ coach.

You must work with someone trained inrepparttar 101611 field. You can’t “just” read about EQ. Taking a course is a necessary first step to acquaint you with terminology and to reframe what you already know, but then you must put these things into practice in real life. You will improve with feedback. TO PREVAIL

Last but not lease, if you’re going through a major change, prepare to be a stronger person when it’s over – IF you have developed your resilience.

“Adversity is another way to measurerepparttar 101612 greatness of individuals,” said Lou Holtz, American football coach. “I never had a crisis that didn’t make me stronger.”

In light of this, you might interview a potential coach to see what major crises and changes they have mastered. The “untested” are only talking theoretically, and you’ll hearrepparttar 101613 difference. This personal growth and triumph isrepparttar 101614 optimal result of going through change, but we all know people who cratered under strain.

Develop your emotional intelligence and your crises can make you stronger, not weaker. Get proactive. Give emotional intelligence a try!

©Susan Dunn, MA, Emotional Intelligence Coach, http://www.susandunn.cc . I teach individuals to master change and transform their lives through the power of emotional intelligence. Individual coaching, Internet courses, and ebooks (http://www.webstrategies.cc/ebooklibrary.html ) . Mailto:sdunn@susandunn.cc for free EQ ezine.


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