Today, you'll learn about 2 yellow-flag indications person on other end of your online chat is possibly a troll (married, partnered or undesirable)..

1.Statute Of Contact Limitations

Beware, beware of anyone putting conditions on when and where you can contact them.

For example - ”Sorry, but I don’t have a land-line, only a cell-phone.”

Or ”Don’t call me on weekends or after 8:30pm”

Or ”Always let me know by email first that you are going to phone me.”

Or "Never leave a message on my answering machine."

You need to ask yourself:

”Who has a cell phone but no land-line?”

”What makes a person unavailable to speak on phone on weekends and evenings?”

”Why would someone require forewarning before being contacted by phone?”

"What's problem with leaving messages on answering machine of someone you're dating online?"

Suspicious wouldn’t you agree?

In real-world some excuses may be plausible but unfortunately lying is much more prevelent online, so you must be more skeptical in your judgment of what you read from other people.

The exception where above may be acceptable is if dater is still in a dead relationship that hasn’t officially ended because of ownership of joint assets or even marriage.

Personally, even in these cases I would still steer clear. Sometimes relationships can take a long time to end and then you may just be catching them on rebound with a whole lot of emotional baggage to boot, anyway.

If any of these contact limitations are imposed on you I suggest you try following:

First, let’s get clear on our terms.

For purpose of this article, “Troll” has two meanings.

1.The traditional online meaning (if there is such a thing) is someone who posts messages to a forum or chatroom just to stir up a fight, or to bait someone.

For example, you could have some 15-year-old straight boy teenager and his friends respond to your online personal profile just because they want to lure you in then bash you, either verbally or— heavens forbid — in person.

2.The gay man’s term, “troll,” also has a very specific meaning. It applies to undesirable, ugly men who have little or no social skills and thus, don’t take ‘no’ for an answer.

And before you decide “Well I’m a lesbian, so that counts me out” let me tell you something:

Lesbians are a ‘target’ of trolls.

Some thuggish types get their jollies by harassing lesbians or even try to set up dates because they think lesbians are actually porn-stars who go both ways – You think I’m joking? Think again!

In either case, if a troll responds to your online personal

profile, it is imperative you are able to detect him and break off communication immediately. In some cases your well-being may depend on it.

Put up your hand if you have ever had a gay friend ‘homo- bashed’.