Do One Thing DifferentWritten by Oz Merchant, C.Ht., NLP Trainer & Coach
I was walking into my office building other day, when I realized that I always approach door from same side, open same side of door, with same hand.Now you could call it deja vu, but I know that it has happened before, almost everyday. I am walking around in total trance. It is a good thing that I trust my unconscious to keep me out of harm's way. Without it, it could be fatal. So I wondered, in how many other areas of my life am I just wandering about asleep. Now some times it is useful to have a trusty autopilot, I am sure Gurdjieff would disagree, but it is true. You don't want to think, consciously at least, of how to go from first gear to fifth gear, while remembering to check blind spot, rearview mirror, and on and on... It is much easier to just trust your unconscious mind and do it! But now other times, when it is not useful, for example in relationships, or being stuck in process of your own success. How do you get out of that trap, or Kiyosaki's rat race, if you are thinking of work-related issues? You are stuck in a groove, digging yourself deeper, and being miserable in process.
| | Personal PowerWritten by Margaret Paul, Ph.,D.
The following article is offered for free use in your ezine, print publication or on your web site, so long as author resource box at end is included, with hyperlinks. Notification of publication would be appreciated.For other articles which you are free to use, see http://www.innerbonding.com Title: Personal Power Author: Margaret Paul, Ph.D. E-mail: mailto:margaret@innerbonding.com Copyright: © 2004 by Margaret Paul URL: http://www.innerbonding.com Word Count: 730 Category: self Improvement Personal Power By Margaret Paul, Ph.D. All of us would love to have personal power – power to manifest our dreams, power to remain calm and loving in face of fear, power to stay centered in ourselves in face of attack. Our society often confuses personal power - “power within” - with “power over,” which is about controlling others. There is a vast difference between personal power and control. Personal power comes from an inner sense of security, from knowing who you are in your soul, from having defined your own intrinsic worth. It is power that flows through you when you are connected to and feel your oneness with a spiritual source of guidance. It is power that is eventual result of doing deep inner emotional and spiritual work to heal fears and false beliefs acquired in childhood. Without this inner work to heal beliefs that create our limitations, we are stuck in our egos, our wounded selves. The very basis of ego is desire for control, for power over others and outcomes. Our ego is self we created to attempt to have control over getting love, avoiding pain, and feeling safe. We created our ego self in our attempt to protect ourselves from losses we fear – loss of self, loss of other, loss of security, loss of face. As children, when we didn’t get love we needed, we decided that our true Self must be unlovable. In our attempt to feel safe, we buried our true Self and created false self – ego, our wounded self. The ego self then went about learning how to feel safe through trying to control others and outcomes. The ego believes that having control over how people see us and feel about us, as well as over outcome of things, will give us safety we seek. Even if you do manage to have some control through anger, criticism, judgment, or money, this will never give you personal power. This will never fill you with peace and joy and an inner sense of safety. Control may give you a momentary sense of safety, but it will never give you deep sense of safety that comes from knowing your intrinsic worth, worth of your soul. As long as your safety and worth are being defined by externals which can be temporary – your money, your looks, your performance, your power over others – you will feel anxious. We feel anxious when we attach our worth and happiness to temporal things rather than to eternal qualities, such as caring, compassion, and kindness.
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