You Get to Want What You Want

Written by Claudette Rowley

You have permission to publish this article electronically or in print as long asrepparttar resource box is included. Please notify me of publication by sending a website link or copy of your publication to

Word Count: 599 words, 65 characters per line

Thanks, Claudette Rowley ============

You Get to Want What You Want

"What's terrible is to pretend thatrepparttar 126172 second-rate is first-rate. To pretend that you don't need love when you do; or you like your work when you know quite well you're capable of better." - Doris Lessing

When you tap into your inner voice and identify your vision, you bring to life your deepest longing. Your vision manifestsrepparttar 126173 essence of you based on your truth, values, creativity, and authenticity. Putting yourself out intorepparttar 126174 world in this way can feel risky;repparttar 126175 thought of that risk can easily block your from seeing your vision.

A vision can be small or large, and have an impact on your daily life orrepparttar 126176 big picture of your life. For example, a vision ofrepparttar 126177 ideal day care situation for my baby forms in my mind as his birth grows closer. I'm counting onrepparttar 126178 vision of what I truly desire to assist in attractingrepparttar 126179 optimal child care situation. Inrepparttar 126180 whole scheme of life, this is a smaller vision, yet no less important. And this "smaller" vision makes a direct impact on my ability to realize my far-reaching vision for my coaching business.

A vision that's compelling for you is often right at your fingertips. We all have an inkling ofrepparttar 126181 vision we'd like to put intorepparttar 126182 world:repparttar 126183 forgotten dream,repparttar 126184 "ridiculous" idea, andrepparttar 126185 "unrealistic" business venture. You are born knowing what you want at your deepest core. After awhile, many of us begin to settle for what we think we're allowed to have. "Just okay" becomes good enough. "It's fine" becomes a way of life. The parameters of our wanting become defined by whatrepparttar 126186 saboteur and family, friends, or a significant other tell us we are allowed to have.


Written by Pauline Wallin, Ph.D.


By Pauline Wallin, Ph.D. Author, "Taming Your Inner Brat: A Guide for Transforming Self-defeating Behavior"

The perfect card,repparttar perfect gift,repparttar 126171 perfect date . . . Isn't there enough pressure in relationships without having to live up to some romantic ideal on Valentine's Day?

This is not howrepparttar 126172 celebration of February 14 started out. Its origins stem from Pagan and Christian history. Back then there were feasts celebrating fertility, and later there was recognition of St. Valentine (whose actual existence is questioned by some experts) who secretly performed marriage ceremonies for soldiers whenrepparttar 126173 emperor had forbidden it. But there were no TV commercials depicting models with perfect bodies and perfect teeth giving each other chocolates and back rubs. Valentine's Day back then was not a test of how good a lover you were.

Modern relationships are difficult enough without having to stage a major performance on a designated day. Men agonize overrepparttar 126174 greeting card racks, hoping that they can choose a card that is not too funny, not too mushy. Andrepparttar 126175 gift: how will she interpret it? If I buy her chocolates will she think I want her to get fat? If I don't buy her chocolates will she think I assume she is fat? Isrepparttar 126176 gift too extravagant? Is it too impersonal? Are roses too predictable?

This is not what love is all about. Love is much more complex than flowers and chocolates. Social psychologists have been studying interpersonal attraction and love for almost four decades, and they still haven't figured it out completely. What is known, however, is that love relationships are multi dimensional. Sexual attraction, or what some people call "chemistry" is only one ingredient of a love relationship, and often not evenrepparttar 126177 most important one.

Distinctions have been made between passionate love and companionate love. Passionate love is an intense longing forrepparttar 126178 other person. It is accompanied by extreme feelings: ecstasy when things are going well, and despair when things are rocky. Passionate love is also characterized by physical sensations, such as rapid heartbeat and "butterflies" inrepparttar 126179 stomach.

Cont'd on page 2 ==> © 2005
Terms of Use