Both husband and wife made a definite connection with everyone in room when it was their individual turn to speak. As husband began his speech, he looked at his wife in audience and magic happened. His eyes darkened. They filled with a mixture of profound love, passion and gratitude for her. He breathed deeper. He stood straighter. He became even more present.

It was as though admiration and love he saw in his wife's eyes fed him strength and permission to be more present; as if she saw him and accepted him so completely that acceptance from everyone else was a given.

When it was his wife's turn to speak, same thing happened between them. This time, he fed her with acceptance and delight in her. And she in turn, having permission, could be fully herself in front of a group of strangers.

These two were ordinary people, both young, perhaps in their early 30's. She is a stay-at-home mom with a 2-year-old. He is a working professional. But love, connection and acceptance between them is nothing ordinary.

Robert Elias Najemy

In order to create healthy, happy and harmonious reality we all desire, we will need to create emotional harmony.

This process can be divided into six basic steps:

1. Recognize our emotions. 2. Accept them as they are. 3. Release them when necessary. 4. Understand how they are created. 5. Transform negative ones through understanding and create more positive ones. 6. Transcend them.

Here we will present a short profile of some of basic emotions. We have developed specific questionnaires for understanding each one.

As this book would have become prohibitively large if we included them here, those who are seriously seeking to understand themselves can download these questionnaires from our web site at http://www.HolisticHarmony.com/research/emotions.html. (for members ? but membership is free)

Answering those questions will help you discover how those emotions are created and how you might transform them.

ANXIETY AND WORRY

Anxiety and worry, although obviously forms of fear, have become so common that it is worth looking at them separately.

Anxiety often concerns factors of time and results. We are anxious because we fear that we will not have enough time to complete all that we have planned, or that result will not be successful, perfect or acceptable to others.

We worry often for same reasons, but also when we fear something may not turn out as we hope. That "something" may concern ourselves, our children, or our parents or spouse, which of course, ultimately, through our attachment to these people, has to do with ourselves.

We learn to worry as children, and this becomes a habit causing us to search for issues to be anxious or worrisome about, even when there is nothing really important enough to merit such a concern.

We may wonder at times why our mind thinks so much about a particular matter, creating anxiety and worry, when in reality that matter is not so important to us.