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You Can't Help But Succeed.

(c) Martin Avis http://www.BizE-zine.com __________________________________________________

It is funny way our minds work. Our conscious mind deals with world, accepting, rejecting, sorting, storing, forming opinions and generally letting us get on with out lives. But beneath that there is a powerful force that we ignore at out peril.

Our subconscious mind can be an incredibly useful tool, or a hidden enemy. It doesn't care either way.

The subconscious runs as a background program. Its main purpose seems to be to make things happen. Anything that it perceives as a requirement to your continued wellbeing.

Unfortunately, it has no ability to make a value call beyond limited feedback it gets from your consciousness.

How does this work? Lets us assume that you are painfully shy. Something may have happened to you at age of five to make you embarrassed in public. Your subconscious has observed that event 'x' produced unwanted response 'y' so forever after alters its programming to minimize risk of you being exposed to event 'x' again.

Another example. All your life you have heard people saying that business success is 'risky', that so-and-so lost his home after a business failed, that Joe down road worked so hard building his business that his wife and kids left him. What does your subconscious do with this input? It tries to protect you from suffering same fate by making you uneasy about success, suspicious about winning.

So when you are in a position to take a step towards your own personal success, something holds you back.

In this way, subconscious always succeeds. You may perceive consciously that you have failed, but your subconscious has succeeded in its aims.

We are all filled with negative programming and are busy succeeding at any number of things that may not match our conscious desires.

I think everyone can benefit from having a coach -- coaching can contribute that much to your life. Which is why you may be interested in seeing what some of my clients have said about value they received from coaching.

Here is a list of top ten benefits my clients say they have derived from having a relationship coach:

1. "I finally met my match." Clients repeatedly credit having a relationship coach for their ability to finally meet their match, a partner unlike any other they have had. In this relationship -- in addition to attraction -- there is true compatibility in values, interests, and desire for personal growth.

2. "I regained hope." Thanks to coaching, clients regained hope in love, regained hope in meeting right partner, regained hope in getting married, perhaps even having children. They understand they can be loved and that there is a right partner for them.

3. "I never have to repeat that horrible pattern again." Relationship coaching has helped people free themselves from unhealthy relationship patterns. These are kinds of patterns where you end up with same partner, only with a different face, over and over again.

4. "I learned how to read people." Coaching has helped clients learn to understand their own and others' motivations. It helped them learn how to clearly see people for who they are.

5. "I finally know exactly how to date." Clients credit relationship coaching for their newfound clarity about what to do and not to do when dating. They no longer have to worry about whether they are doing right thing. They can now relax and be themselves.