You CAN Improve Your Relationship

Written by Kim Olver

It seems as if creating successful relationships with our significant others and parenting children are two ofrepparttar most difficult jobs we face and yet we get no formal training in either. It’s as if people believe that we are born with an inherent ability to do these two things. Yet, look around us. Inrepparttar 144937 US,repparttar 144938 divorce rate is slightly over 50%! I don’t know anywhere but baseball where a 50% average is a good thing.

Couples go through life getting along when times are good; and fighting with, ignoring, or leaving each other when things get tough. Most people believe that to seek help with their relationships means to admit a certain kind of defeat that says something about who they are as a person. Or possibly, they believe that relationships are something we are just supposed to be able to manage on our own. Or, finally, some people believe that those out there helping couples can’t know any more than they do. After all, what’s to know about keeping relationships together?

Well,repparttar 144939 truth is that there is a whole lot to learn when it comes to relationships. Unfortunately,repparttar 144940 only training most of us ever receive isrepparttar 144941 passive learning we get throughrepparttar 144942 modeling ofrepparttar 144943 adults who live in our house with us andrepparttar 144944 media. Now, I don’t know about you, but my parents had only receivedrepparttar 144945 informal training they got from their parents, and they from my great grandparents and so on back throughrepparttar 144946 generations. There is so much more to know about relationships than that!

Also, my parents have helped support that 50% statistic cited earlier in that they divorced sometime around their 25th wedding anniversary. What I learned about relationships from watching them is that couples never argue, especially in front ofrepparttar 144947 children. Onrepparttar 144948 surface, my parents had a very happy marriage but my father experienced a stereotypical mid-life crisis and suddenly questionedrepparttar 144949 meaning of “life” and decided marriage was holding him back somehow.

In some ways, this type of training may have been as bad as those who have parents who argue allrepparttar 144950 time. Disagreements are a natural by-product of relationships. It is virtually impossible for two people to come together and create a life without some of their ideals, values, opinions or day-to-day activities coming into conflict with each other. The question becomes howrepparttar 144951 couple manages this conflict.

There are many things to consider when speaking about couples and their challenges and areas for growth and development. The first is compatibility. I know there is an expression that says opposites attract and I believe there is some accuracy in that statement when you think of attraction as that chemical interaction that occurs when two people meet and are attracted. This chemical attraction doesn’t care whatrepparttar 144952 other person’s values are, what is important to him or her,repparttar 144953 personality characteristics involved, or what either of you likes to do in your spare time. Compatibility is a key for a successful, healthy relationship. Go to and takerepparttar 144954 free Assessment to determine your compatibility with your partner.


Written by Kenia Morales

Did you ever get a feeling or gain notion of a specific situation without any logical explanation? Well, that is your intuition. When you least expect it intuition reaches out and hits you with information that you have no idea were it came from. The problem with this type of feeling or knowledge is that we have no logical explanation for it and often do not follow what it’s trying to tell us. However, many find that when their intuition is over looked, it later proves itself to be a fact and regret not following it. Well, I will tell you about what happened to me when I ignored my intuition.

When I gave birth to my second daughter I had just moved to another state. Therefore, I did not have a pediatrician for my daughters. But, my Doctor and a nurse both recommended one and I followed their advice.

When I took my newborn several days later for a check up there was something wrong. I had a bad feeling about this man and every time I met with himrepparttar negative “gut feeling” would come back. I even discussed it with my husband and he suggested we changerepparttar 144827 Doctor. I told him that there was no rational explanation in order for me to change him.

Within several more visits my “gut feeling” disappeared. After a while I learned to appreciate him and though he was a great doctor.

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