Prelude: Since 1989, much attention has been devoted to status of Black men and their “inevitable demise.” But regardless of what western civilization thinks, Black America continues its tradition of giving props to these courageous warriors. So, to Black men from Alabama to Wyoming, this commentary is dedicated to you.

Picture this scenario: A colossal public housing project embodying 26 buildings, 4210 apartments and 15,000 tenants, stands unnoticed in a low-income residential district surrounded by garbage and overgrown shrubs. Entering high-rise pigsty—you’re overwhelmed by stench of urine and cheap wine emanating from stairwells.

Turning a corner, you walk gingerly amid broken glass and used condoms littering corridors. Nauseated and disgusted more surprises are in store. As you head for exit, you pass an abandoned apartment and watch as a middle-age man jabs a syringe into his arm trying vainly to escape reality. Forging ahead, you watch as gangs fight over neighborhood turf.

As you head for exit, your feet graze neighborhood drunks. Asleep in doorway, unaware of their surroundings and too inebriated to care, they sleep soundly. Welcome to year 2289. Common sights like ones above are observed in congested buildings of Chicago, dilapidated projects of New York and multi-complexes of Los Angeles.

It is now 289 years into future and Black men have replaced animals in laboratory experiments. Having heard in 20th century that African-American men were moving toward extinction, it came to past. Now at mercy of ruthless scientists, many struggle to reclaim their dignity, as they try to piece together how they came to exist in this state of upheaval.

The massive public housing project, home to 10,000 Black men also doubles as a laboratory. Ninety-five years ago, 50 percent of America’s Black men, unable to cope with social discontent began wondering if there was a conspiracy against them. Thus, began journey of mass destruction.

In a club, atmosphere is completely different. There is competition and much more intensity in air. The women don’t know who you are and if they seen you around, they can only judge you by your actions – which may be effected by alcohol. When you do walk up to one of these ladies in a club, right away you are inviting her to go out, have a drink, etc., without her really knowing who you are. No wonder this type of atmosphere is ripe with rejection. Granted a lady may get to know you in a club over time, but there always seems to be another guy around corner trying to take your place. Probably this competition is reason for hurried invite for a personal connection. Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn’t. But I bet, must guys have had more then their share of rejections in a club and really don’t care for feeling.

Meeting a girl online is similar to girl next door concept. She may not be next door, but atmosphere of little pressure, casual conversation and getting to know each other by online exchange (email, online chatting, etc.), make it a more pleasant feeling. In time, this exchange may blossom into more then friendship. If sparks connect, you will find yourself in love with girl next door though she may be miles even oceans away.