Yin Yang Relationships - How to Find YOUR Perfect PartnerWritten by John Boe
Yin Yang is ancient, Chinese symbol for balance. It depicts strong attraction and complementary nature of opposites. Just as magnate and metal attract, while oil and water repel, we too are subject to these laws of nature in our relationships. For example, we have all met people for whom we feel an immediate affinity or for some unknown reason, an instant dislike. We are attracted or repelled by others instinctively. This intuitive feeling goes beyond physical attraction. In reality, what we are responding to is natural chemistry, or lack there of, between temperament styles. Understanding temperament styles will not only have a positive impact on way you see yourself, but it will also enhance your relationship with others. If you are single, it will provide you insight into selecting a compatible partner. If you are a parent, it can dramatically improve way you raise your children. If you are a salesperson, this information will significantly enhance your sales effectiveness by enabling you to build trust and rapport quickly.
Hippocrates, father of medicine, is credited with originating basic theory of four temperament styles. He concluded that our behavior style was determined genetically at birth rather than from external influences such as astrology or birth order. Hippocrates identified physiology of each of four temperament styles and concluded that we are born with a combination of four genetic influences: Choleric (Worker), Sanguine (Talker), Phlegmatic (Watcher) and Melancholy (Thinker). According to Hippocrates, extroverted Choleric (Worker) was short-tempered and ill natured, but had a dynamic desire for action! The extroverted Sanguine (Talker) was cheerful, outgoing and optimistic, but not very serious or organized. The introverted Phlegmatic (Watcher) was slow and sluggish, but could stay calm, cool and collected under pressure. The introverted Melancholy (Thinker) was deep, sad and depressive, but also a thoughtful, gifted and analytical genius.
It is important to note that we are born into our temperament style and that it is unrelated to race, gender, or age. Our personality is comprised of traits from all four styles but our primary and secondary styles will have most noticeable influence. By reviewing traits of four temperament styles listed below, you will be able to determine your primary and secondary style. For more information on this subject, read my article; What is Your Temperament Style? http://www.johnboe.com/What%20is%20Your%20Temperament%20Style.pdf
Levels of Life... Creeping up the Ladder of ExcellenceWritten by Edward B. Toupin
Have you ever wondered why someone felt so distant or seemed so different than anyone else in a crowd? Have you ever wondered why you always seemed to struggle with some mundane task in your life while others seem to soar? If you answered yes to either of those questions, then you need to sit back and evaluate your current situation and determine best way to begin moving up through various levels of life. Life is a series of levels, or steps, that lead to many different paths. Each step allows us security and knowledge necessary to take on next big step to bring us fulfillment on our path toward our vision.
--- The difference that makes difference. ---
So many people are seen as weird or odd. Some people are seen as intimidating or gentle. Others are seen simply for their appearance, race, creed, or gender. However, many people present themselves for what they are not. Have you truly ever thought about why? Why do these people seem this way? It's not color of our skin or our creed that differentiate us. It is what we've experienced in our life that brings out difference in each other. Life exists in levels of knowledge and experience.
Life's levels vary from person to person. In many cases, people have experienced much in their short lives and have either succumbed to pain or learned from experience. Many have worked their way up through levels to achieve satisfaction and ability to pursue their desires and "do their own thing." It is learning that takes us beyond what we are today into what we could be tomorrow. It is within our abilities to acquire genuine power as we grow, or present pretense of power because we are not satisfied and cannot get to where we want to go.
--- What are these levels? ---
According to Abraham Maslow, our basic levels of life are defined by a "Hierarchy of Needs." He noted that there are a series of basic needs that all humans must satisfy. Once these basic needs are satisfied, additional needs can, and will, emerge. However, you cannot pursue these additional needs until basic needs are met.
It is when one or more of these basic needs becomes disrupted or unsatisifed that you begin to feel stressed, unfulfilled, and unable to pursue your desires. It is when each of these basic needs is fulfilled that you can begin to pursue your life's vision. As listed, in order below, these needs include physiological, safety, love, esteem, and self-actualization. Once these basic needs are met, only then can you continue down whichever path of fulfillment you chose.
1. Physiological Needs: These are most basic needs that we all require to exist, including: air, water, food, sleep, and sex. When these needs are not satisfied we may feel sickness, irritation, pain, or some type of discomfort.
2. Safety Needs: Safety needs focus on stability and consistency for ourselves in outside world. We all require security of a home and family. For example, safety needs sometimes motivate people to become religious because of promise of a safe place after death.