Do you ever think to yourself, "I can't do that?" Most likely, it is your present beliefs that may be causing you to doubt your own abilities. After all, only thing that can ever stop you from doing or getting anything is a thought.
∑ I'd better not try that.
∑ I don't have a chance to win this one.
∑ They'd probably turn me down anyway.
∑ I can't see it working.
∑ I doubt she'd go out with me.
∑ What if I call him and he says no?
I could list thousands of these tension building and confidence destroying instructions. Many of us wash these types of negative instructions through our brains every day. It's no wonder we are afraid to try new things.
We always lose when we expect to. Which is why we did. It's self-fulfilling. Expect failure and get failure. Which in turn breeds more expectation of failure.
If you want to change your situation and results you are currently getting - you first have to change your beliefs. This means changing your mental conditioning to get results you want.
If you set yourself up to expect success - you will achieve more success - and so breeding more expectations of success. It starts by telling ourselves that we can do it. It is about making things work rather than focusing on what we can't do and telling ourselves we can't. The basic concept is really that simple, but extremely powerful.
Not all your results will change instantly, but some will. I mean, it's not like a million dollars is going to appear out of thin air. But, if you really do want a million dollars, you can have it. However, firstly you have to believe that it is possible.
It is a bit like a farmer planting seeds; he doesn't expect crop to pop out of ground instant he waters it. He expects to nurture it and work at making his crop a reality. Nor does a woman who conceives a baby expect it to be born immediately (thank goodness for that), without some sacrifice or effort.