Written by Rhoberta Shaler

You haverepparttar opportunity of a lifetime. That sounds like marketing hype because you have heard it so often, doesn't it? Think about it this way: you haverepparttar 101827 opportunity to live one lifetime. Does that make a difference? How are you using your opportunity?

Are you doingrepparttar 101828 things you want to be doing inrepparttar 101829 ways that you want to be doing them? If not, why not? What are you viewing as obstacles to havingrepparttar 101830 life you want? Arerepparttar 101831 obstacles you perceive real or just convenient? So often it is comfortable to complain about them. Sometimes folks think that acknowledgingrepparttar 101832 obstacle in this way relieves them ofrepparttar 101833 requirement to overcome them. Could that be you?

What isrepparttar 101834 first thing that comes to mind when you hearrepparttar 101835 question, "What do you REALLY want?" Do you know? Are you clear? That'srepparttar 101836 beginning. Most folks can immediately say what they don't want. When you can very clearly state what you do want, then, you are on your way!


Written by Rhoberta Shaler

Do you have an Inner Critic who seems to always be on duty? It is that voice that sounds so sure and authoritative as it tears at your self-esteem and whittles away at your self-confidence. You can actually look spectacular, healthy and fit and it will fixate onrepparttar part of your body you likerepparttar 101826 least. Sound familiar?

It is notrepparttar 101827 exact words that this voice utters that matter. It isrepparttar 101828 quality ofrepparttar 101829 energy behindrepparttar 101830 words...and it is often not positive. Interestingly enough,repparttar 101831 voice is usually not tellingrepparttar 101832 truth. In fact, it is not even close to being based in reality. It is such a strange phenomenon. A hundred people could tell you that you look terrific today, and that one lonely, miserable Inner Critic can cause you to decide that all one hundred of those folks are wrong! When you look at it that way, it seems ludicrous, doesn't it?

Let me tell you a story from my own life. Fromrepparttar 101833 time I was nine years old, I was told that I needed to diet, change, do more, do less, reach, settle, conform, stretch. The message from my folks was that no matter what I did I would never be good enough. Sound familiar again? Once I was an adult,repparttar 101834 content of that message shifted from my weight to my career and mothering ability, butrepparttar 101835 outcome wasrepparttar 101836 same--no matter what I did I would never be good enough. If I paid attention to my career--and, as a single mother of three, there was no choice if we wanted to eat--my parents insisted that I was not giving my children enough of my time. If I paid attention to my children, I was wasting my life being a mother. What a Catch-22! My parents were invested in control. Making it impossible for me to "win" allowed them to think they were in control. Fortunately, I saw their game when I was seventeen and gave their opinions less weight than they thought. Or, at least, that is what I thought!

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