YOU HAVE THE OPPORTUNITY OF A LIFETIME!Written by Rhoberta Shaler
You have opportunity of a lifetime. That sounds like marketing hype because you have heard it so often, doesn't it? Think about it this way: you have opportunity to live one lifetime. Does that make a difference? How are you using your opportunity?
Are you doing things you want to be doing in ways that you want to be doing them? If not, why not? What are you viewing as obstacles to having life you want? Are obstacles you perceive real or just convenient? So often it is comfortable to complain about them. Sometimes folks think that acknowledging obstacle in this way relieves them of requirement to overcome them. Could that be you?
What is first thing that comes to mind when you hear question, "What do you REALLY want?" Do you know? Are you clear? That's beginning. Most folks can immediately say what they don't want. When you can very clearly state what you do want, then, you are on your way!
IS YOUR INNER CRITIC WORKING OVER-TIME?Written by Rhoberta Shaler
Do you have an Inner Critic who seems to always be on duty? It is that voice that sounds so sure and authoritative as it tears at your self-esteem and whittles away at your self-confidence. You can actually look spectacular, healthy and fit and it will fixate on part of your body you like least. Sound familiar?
It is not exact words that this voice utters that matter. It is quality of energy behind words...and it is often not positive. Interestingly enough, voice is usually not telling truth. In fact, it is not even close to being based in reality. It is such a strange phenomenon. A hundred people could tell you that you look terrific today, and that one lonely, miserable Inner Critic can cause you to decide that all one hundred of those folks are wrong! When you look at it that way, it seems ludicrous, doesn't it?
Let me tell you a story from my own life. From time I was nine years old, I was told that I needed to diet, change, do more, do less, reach, settle, conform, stretch. The message from my folks was that no matter what I did I would never be good enough. Sound familiar again? Once I was an adult, content of that message shifted from my weight to my career and mothering ability, but outcome was same--no matter what I did I would never be good enough. If I paid attention to my career--and, as a single mother of three, there was no choice if we wanted to eat--my parents insisted that I was not giving my children enough of my time. If I paid attention to my children, I was wasting my life being a mother. What a Catch-22! My parents were invested in control. Making it impossible for me to "win" allowed them to think they were in control. Fortunately, I saw their game when I was seventeen and gave their opinions less weight than they thought. Or, at least, that is what I thought!