Freedom From Fear Helaine Iris © 2004“The thing you fear most has no power. Your fear of it is what has power. Facing truth really will set you free.” Oprah Winfrey
Here’s another installment in ongoing story of me facing challenges of parenthood. My daughter, a recently graduate from high school, set out with a group of girlfriends on a 3-month cross country expedition. A post high school dream: to travel across country with no agenda and no expectations other than to experience life as it unfolds.
It might sound like a great idea, and as her mom, I might sound calm to you now as I tell you about this trip, but believe me, I didn’t start there.
It all began after a long, arduous decision process to delay her entrance to college. I of course wanted her to benefit from opportunities college affords, but she said she needed a break from academic rigors and wanted some time to “find herself”.
In theory, I agreed with her. A lot of young people take time off between high school and college; yet, I still found myself attached to wanting her somewhere “safe” and getting on with business of taking her place in world. Finally, after much debate and internal process, I was able to let go and support idea of her taking time to begin her adulthood. And truthfully, deep down, I knew it could be a life changing opportunity for her.
So, on coattails of college delay decision she decided to go on road trip. When she left I got afraid. Taking a year off is one thing, but going on a risky trip with limited resources without a plan is another!
You don’t have to be a rocket scientist to imagine what I was afraid of. And, I’m sure you don’t have to be a parent to relate. I was concerned about her safety, kids in a vehicle going 70 miles per hour on highway. Who might she run into that would take advantage of her, what decisions they might make to get them into trouble, sex, drugs, list goes on and on. Thinking those thoughts, I found myself getting paralyzed with all what-ifs.