Wife smarter than husband?

Written by Jonathan Tan

Is it safe for a wife to be smarter than her husband?

Of course! Men who cannot afford social ornaments sometimes want inferior wives. Why? Often because they harbor a great sense of inferiority. Therefore at all economic levels there are some men who want apparently weak and docile women whom they can dominate completely, who will not put up any arguments, and who will do as they are told without any "ifs," "ands," or "buts." Likewise there are women who either want to be dominated, or who are so eager to marry that they will do so under such circumstances.

What aboutrepparttar "ordinary man" who has no serious feelings of inadequacy, and who cannot afford, and does not desire a social ornament? Does he demand that his wife not have too many brains?

Certainly he wants her to be intelligent enough to do her job well. He does not want to feel ashamed of her because of her stupidity. Actually, too,repparttar 105646 marriage will turn out more successfully ifrepparttar 105647 wife is smart enough to be interesting, and to help develop satisfying personal relationships.

Still,repparttar 105648 man usually does not want to feel inferior to his wife. But feeling inferior is notrepparttar 105649 same as being inferior. Some men have a quiet pride in a wife who is smarter, provided that she is smart enough not to make him appear and feel inferior, especially in front of his friends.

Some men, like some women, want others to run things for them. This desire may result from an unwillingness to assume responsibilities. It may come from a deep-seated desire to be dominated. Whatever its basis, there are men who want to be dominated by their wives. In such cases, both of them should know it in advance.

The problem is not limited to what men in general, or this man in particular, may want. There is also social demand. The boy andrepparttar 105650 girl who plan marriage should have a clear understanding of whatrepparttar 105651 entire situation actually is, including its contradictions which they must somehow resolve.

Our culture expectsrepparttar 105652 husband to be intellectually superior to his wife. Yet actually, he is not and in many cases cannot be. Byrepparttar 105653 law of chances, there will be almost as many wives who are superior to their husbands, as husbands who are superior to their wives. So what to do?

In real liferepparttar 105654 situation does not work out too badly. Vocationally,repparttar 105655 wife usually becomes side-tracked while she is bearing and rearingrepparttar 105656 children. With a twenty-year advantage, even a relatively inferior husband can usually manage to keep ahead. And as a result ofrepparttar 105657 differences in what society expects,repparttar 105658 wife usually runs withrepparttar 105659 throttle only partly open.

Heavenly Honeymoons--Advice and Tips for That Perfect Getaway!

Written by Larry Denton

Getting married is one ofrepparttar most anticipated and exciting times of your life. And your honeymoon can berepparttar 105645 most exciting and romantic trip you will ever take, since it represents a celebration of your love, your new marriage, andrepparttar 105646 lifetime commitment you have made. How do you get that "perfect" honeymoon? As with everything else that involves marriage, it is vitally important that you talk with your future spouse. Communication between partners is absolutely essential in a strong and enduring marriage--whether it be about financial decisions,repparttar 105647 in-laws, or raisingrepparttar 105648 kids. That communication channel can begin withrepparttar 105649 planning ofrepparttar 105650 wedding ceremony and certainly withrepparttar 105651 decisions concerningrepparttar 105652 honeymoon.

Finding out what your future spouse has for honeymoon expectations and matching them with yours is a good place to begin when planning a honeymoon. Do you want to go aroundrepparttar 105653 block, or aroundrepparttar 105654 world? Do you wantrepparttar 105655 honeymoon to be exciting and adventurous or lazy and relaxing? Do you want to save money, or really splurge on a big ticket vacation? Do you want sunshine or snow? (Hawaii orrepparttar 105656 Canadian Rockies) Do you want to marry inrepparttar 105657 same place you plan to honeymoon? Answering these questions can help insure that your honeymoon will fulfill your wildest dreams.

Remember,repparttar 105658 best reason for a honeymoon is to rest, relax and regroup afterrepparttar 105659 stresses and rigors of planning and conducting your wedding. The peace of mind which it can bring is worth every penny. Even if you are already living together, you will need to get away and relax after allrepparttar 105660 work you have done to get to this point. Do not treat your honeymoon like another vacation; it is a very special time! A time to bond, to set new directions, lay out goals as a married couple, and to renew your romance.

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