Ah, agony of getting on with your book.

Well, I'm here to diffuse that situation with a list of key reasons we have trouble sticking to our writing or other creative projects. Perhaps this will help next time you find yourself polishing doorknobs instead of sitting down to work.

Check all that apply to you:

You Lie To Yourself About Why You Can't Write The Book

You think your stalling is about lack of time, or too much pressure at work, or not enough solitude in evening. But guess what? Chances are a deeper, darker reason may be at play, like 'I'm not supposed to be bigger than Mom' or 'What if this thing really takes off?'

You Fear The Impact Your Book Could Have

Sometimes when I coach writers in my Self-Help Author's Crash Course I'll ask them what's impeding their progress. And after some probing, it will come out that they're afraid of big exposure a book can have if it takes off. I'm here to assure you that should that happen, (and chances are your book will not unleash wild mobs of millions) you will be able to handle it. How do I know? On that deep level where psyche meets karma, you won't create a single reader more than you're ready to receive.

You Think Your Book Doesn't Matter, So Why Bother?

Having our own secret secrets, ones that you never dare tell anyone else, creates emotional stress. When they build, they ruin your health. They can make you angry with people, and even at whole world in general.

Knowing secrets about other people creates drama and builds excitement. It is also a trillion dollar industry. Just look at tabloids.

Four elements create formula that builds into a guarded and destructive secret:

Guilt + Fear + Judgment + Person = Secret

Secrets need to be let go and there are three ways to do just that:

1. Talk with a therapist.

2. Talk to person that secret is connected too. Maybe you need to apologize or ask for forgiveness. Maybe you feel they need to. You will usually find that they were feeling same thing. Use an intermediary, like a coach, or a therapist, or someone trained to stay neutral and guide discussion if needed.

If person is deceased, then talk with someone you trust implicitly like a coach or therapist. Let them provide feedback on what they are hearing in-between lines and give some course of action suggestions.

3. If it was something they did to you, find out more about that person, what was their life like, who were they, what pressures did they have in their life, what were their goals.

Most journalers will only write entries up to a certain boundary, then stop. They will not go into their deep down right embarrassing secrets. Yet, these very same secrets stop us from being stars of our own life.

Secrets make you sick, they place barriers in between you and your goals. Even in your relationships when they actually have nothing to do with that person.

Holding onto other people’s secrets is dangerous. Someone at work tells you something in secret. Now you walk around with THEIR weight on your shoulders. What a burden you are carrying.