Why Receive Christian Pre-marital Counseling?

Written by W Melendez

Why Christian Pre-marital Counseling?

“Love is long suffering, and is kind; love has no envy, love is not boastful, love does not behave itself inappropriately, seeks not its own, is not easily provoked, thinks no evil, rejoices not in injustice, but rejoices inrepparttar truth; love bears all things, believes everything, endures everything”. 1 Corinthians 13:4-7

These beautiful words hold us to a high standard. That is why it has been said that before marriage one ought to open our eyes wide, but afterwards keep them half closed. In order to hold up this standard, so necessary for a marriage to work, we need to choose wisely. To decide if you are ready for marriage, you need to choose someone you can trust, because distrust erodes a relationship, and so does undeserved trust. You also need to know what your responsibilities torepparttar 136405 marriage partner are so that you can evaluate yourself realistically. These two things can be done withrepparttar 136406 help of pre-marital therapy.

Why do you need Christian pre-marital therapy? The quote above is fromrepparttar 136407 Bible. The greatest book of love isrepparttar 136408 Bible. The book of Luke is considered by many to berepparttar 136409 most beautiful book ever written. The book of Luke, as well asrepparttar 136410 gospels of Mathew, Mark, and John, tells how Jesus died to save us -repparttar 136411 believers and nowrepparttar 136412 church- from our sins. “Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also lovedrepparttar 136413 church, giving himself up for it”. Ephesians 5:25. God isrepparttar 136414 expert, par excellence, on love.

There is nothing wrong with going to a psychologist, a social worker, a professional counselor, or a psychiatrist for pre-marital and marital therapy. In fact I would encourage you because churches sometimes give only six sessions of pre-marital couple therapy, or group pre-marital therapy with non professional married couples as group leaders and this is barely just enough. Many couples who have received pre-marital therapy say that it helped them but that they wish they had received more therapy. There is so much need inrepparttar 136415 church for marital, family, addiction, and other kinds of counseling, that there is not enough pre-marital therapy. I would recommend supplementingrepparttar 136416 church’s pre-marital therapy with other pre-marital counseling.

However, Christian pre-marital counseling adds a dimension that secular therapies do not usually have. For example,repparttar 136417 Christian counselor advises couples not to have sex before marriage. In his book on dating, Boy Meets Girl, Pastor Joshua Harris explains how a manager of a hotel for honeymooners would run out of activities forrepparttar 136418 newly married to do. This was becauserepparttar 136419 now bored couples had pre-marital sex. Whereas, Joshua and his wife, who did not have sex prior to marriage, hardly left their room!

Inrepparttar 136420 city where I live there is a saying amongrepparttar 136421 non-believers. They say that marriage kills sex. But it is not marriage that kills sex, but pre-marital sex that kills marriage. I knew of one couple that lived together and had sex everyday before to marriage. After marriage,repparttar 136422 wife confided, they had sex once a month. It is not worth it to ruin twenty five or more years of marital sex for one year or even less of pre-marital sex.

If you are contemplating marriage and you are living together, you must move apart and stop having sex for a time until you get married underrepparttar 136423 guidance ofrepparttar 136424 pastor or Christian counselor. Physical intimacy is like a battery. It becomes charged with non sexual activities and gives off energy with sex. Do not skip that pre-marriage charging time. When thinking about what pre-marital therapy is, people have different points of view. One woman tells how she was looking forward to marital therapy thirty years ago. “I thought that we would receive counseling courses about marital responsibility, butrepparttar 136425 entire time,repparttar 136426 courses, which were called ‘marital counseling’, were about catechism.” She was disappointed as were many people inrepparttar 136427 course.

Decades later, now divorced, she expects that marital counseling should be about what marriage is, what people expect it to be, and what it will really be like. Dr. Wayne Mack makes a point that partners differ in expectations and should not wait until marriage to discuss these differences.

Dr. Nancy Alvarez, secular psychologist and sexologist says that some men want marriage with weekends off. That means they spend weekends drinking with their male friends as if they were single, instead of being with their wife. Obviously, that does not work out. Couples should also discuss why they are in love with one another. It has been observed that some people become happy when they hear why their betrothed wants to marry them, others become angry.

The Hypnosis Session - How it Works

Written by Therapy Inspired of Birmingham

The Hypnosis Session

After an initial consultation you will be invited to relax in an armchair and then guided into a deep physical and mental relaxation. This hypnotic state is a normal and natural state of being, and regardless of how deeply you go in hypnosis and however passive you appear to be you will remain in full control ofrepparttar situation and will be able to talk and can terminaterepparttar 135416 session at any time.

Atrepparttar 135417 end ofrepparttar 135418 session, you will be gently returned torepparttar 135419 normal working state and will generally findrepparttar 135420 experience deeply relaxing.

You will then haverepparttar 135421 opportunity to talk through your experience with your therapist.

What does it feel like to be hypnotized?

Some individuals will experience a light floating sensation whilst others may report a feeling of heaviness in their limbs. . . think of it this way. If we gathered a group of individuals onrepparttar 135422 beach and asked them to go intorepparttar 135423 sea, we would see a wide variety of methods. Some would run intorepparttar 135424 sea and swim out torepparttar 135425 horizon, others would dive underwater, whilst others would gently paddle alongrepparttar 135426 sea shore. The same is true with a group of people entering hypnosis. Some will jump right in and enjoy a deeper quality of relaxation than they have ever had before and others will just gently try outrepparttar 135427 shallow waters.

Who can be hypnotised?

Most people can be hypnotised;repparttar 135428 speed, ease and depth ofrepparttar 135429 hypnosis depends uponrepparttar 135430 individual’s willingness,repparttar 135431 strength ofrepparttar 135432 person’s need and their trust and confidence inrepparttar 135433 client.

How Hypnosis works

The brain is an organ that can be seen and held. The mind is that ‘thing’ that is unseen and physically immeasurable, yet appears to berepparttar 135434 part of us that ‘runs everything’. The mind has two distinctive parts, which are referred to asrepparttar 135435 conscious mind andrepparttar 135436 subconscious mind. · Conscious Mind The conscious mind constitutes five percent ofrepparttar 135437 brain. Inrepparttar 135438 normal waking state,repparttar 135439 conscious mind is in control, it checks every input received by our senses, evaluatesrepparttar 135440 information and makes decisions while we are awake and thinking rationally. The conscious mind can drift into daydreaming, or become unaware of our reactions during monotonous routines or repetitive activity, and it abandons its responsibilities when we sleep.

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