Dealing with Food Pushers, or How to Say No When You Don't Any
A friend's doctor said he should lose 10 pounds and so he is trying to break his sugar habit. He generally eats well during day but his downfall is cookies while watching TV. At an office luncheon when dessert was being served, he said, "No thanks, I don't want any." A well meaning co-worker then foisted dessert on him, shoving it in front of him and saying, "You're doctor is wrong, have some," leaving him staring at dessert then back to us with a sorrowful look on his face.
Your Friend Is Trying to Make You Happy
His co-worker probably was not out to sabotage him, but more likely was remembering last time she said no when she really wanted to say yes. She wished someone would have made decision for her, albeit against her wishes, and then she could have eaten dessert because it wouldn't be polite to refuse (or some other excuse), so now she's doing him favor. She is wrong, but that's way people generally are. We all understand pain of deprivation and want to make it better for each other.
Devise a Plan for Dealing with Sabotaging Food Pushers
First, if you do want some dessert, have some, enjoy it and move on with your life. It is not a big deal to have a dessert, even if you're already over full. It's one eating event out of thousands. But when you are being pushed into something you don't want it's no different than being offered drinks when you're underage; peer pressure doesn't stop because you graduate from high school.
You Don't Have to Explain: Just Say No