A friend's doctor said he should lose 10 pounds and so he is trying to break his sugar habit. He generally eats well during day but his downfall is cookies while watching TV. At an office luncheon when dessert was being served, he said, "No thanks, I don't want any." A well meaning co-worker then foisted dessert on him, shoving it in front of him and saying, "You're doctor is wrong, have some," leaving him staring at dessert then back to us with a sorrowful look on his face.

Your Friend Is Trying to Make You Happy

His co-worker probably was not out to sabotage him, but more likely was remembering last time she said no when she really wanted to say yes. She wished someone would have made decision for her, albeit against her wishes, and then she could have eaten dessert because it wouldn't be polite to refuse (or some other excuse), so now she's doing him favor. She is wrong, but that's way people generally are. We all understand pain of deprivation and want to make it better for each other.

Devise a Plan for Dealing with Sabotaging Food Pushers

First, if you do want some dessert, have some, enjoy it and move on with your life. It is not a big deal to have a dessert, even if you're already over full. It's one eating event out of thousands. But when you are being pushed into something you don't want it's no different than being offered drinks when you're underage; peer pressure doesn't stop because you graduate from high school.

Ridding themselves of burdon of extra weight isn't completely easy. It is as much mental as it is physical. Changing your eating habits and getting into a routine of exercise will generally take care of extra weight in a reasonable amount of time.

For others, however, this is not case. Some have genetic problems while others have emotional problems. This alone results in a vicious cycle of eating to feel better, gaining weight, feeling bad about it, and then eating to get rid of that bad feeling.