Why Are You Struggling?
I have been a master at struggling most of my life. My struggles were laced with fear, unworthiness, blame and a bunch of other ugly emotions. I believed it was
natural order for being human, even though I was unhappy. One day, someone very wise asked me; “Why are you struggling so much? Aren’t you tired and a little bored to boot?” For some reason it struck me that yes, I was tired with whole thing and wanted to know something better in my life.
Struggle is unhealthy and draining to energy levels. I made a conscious choice to give up struggle. It didn’t happen overnight but I started to notice profound changes in my life. I experienced more synchronicity, more enjoyment and a deeper connection to my creative self. I began to have more fun.
Life does not have to be a struggle. Everyone’s life, including yours and mine is not meant to be a struggle but a life lived in joy, harmony, radiant health and love. Why do we so often choose struggle over peace, harmony or even love? I believe, most of us are asleep at wheel, and our emotions are driving our choices.
We make a decision about something every moment of our life. We choose what we will wear, eat, and a pyramid of other things throughout day. We also choose how to think, feel, respond and even how to behave.
The problem is, we end up in struggle because of choices we make. These choices are made because we see world through our beliefs, attitudes, memories and expectations. In other words our choices are tainted with our past experiences and laced with emotions. One small perception or belief can hold us back from creating our dream life.
Humans are only species that go out of their way to struggle. The rest of species of creation just moseys along doing whatever it is they do. Take for example, gorilla in wild. When he gets up in morning, he doesn’t start complaining to his mate about all of struggling that lies ahead of him, how will he make it through day, and where is dinner going to come from. Instead he just kisses gorilla misses on her big flat nose, partakes in a little flea picking and ambles over to favorite bush to catch morning nibble before naptime.
OK, maybe we are not gorillas, but nature has much to teach us if we pay attention.
Humans even struggle just to keep body alive. Each day, body undergoes a variety of different processes that keep you alive and breathing. Digestion takes place without your input. There might be repair going on at cellular level where you stubbed your toe last night, and a thousand of other things that have to be totally regulated to keep our bodies alive. The body does it all on it’s own without your help or knowledge, but, we still hold a belief that we need to drink a gallon of carrot juice each day, run a zillion miles and pop twenty different vitamin pills to stay alive. We are hypnotized into believing that universe will gobble us up if we do not put in our allotted time struggling each day.
The universe totally supports you in process of life, and even more when you give up struggle. How do you think all of stars in universe exist? How do you think sun rises everyday and sets each night? It is not with struggle, but through a natural rhythm of life. This life has been happening for millions of years.
