Whose Thought is it Anyway?

Written by Helaine Iris


Winter is finally yielding to spring inrepparttar New England town I live in. I woke up this morning excited to go outside for a walk to feelrepparttar 131301 warming air and sunshine on my face. As I walked briskly throughout my neighborhood I was grateful for my life and all my blessings.

As I was breathing in all those good feelings I became aware of some not so nice thoughts that began nudging me for attention. Thoughts like, youíll never make it as a coach, youíre not good enough, donít let down your guard, youíll wind up alone. The thoughts began to get louder, and pester me like a child wanting candy inrepparttar 131302 grocery store check out line. My good feeling was quickly being drowned out. Where did these thoughts come from to threaten my great day?

Our lives and experiences are always being shaped by something. When we are growing up we are influenced by our surroundings, our family, culture etc. and we absorb and make part of us what we hear and experience both positive and negative. We go on and live our lives with these subtle, and sometimes not so subtle messages running inrepparttar 131303 background.

Many of us live our whole lives listening torepparttar 131304 messages withrepparttar 131305 loudest and most persistent voices, and often these voices can berepparttar 131306 ones that represent fear and limitation.

Iíd like to share a story from my own life to show how we live with thoughts and pain from outside ourselves.

Early on my path of self-discovery I was curious about Native American ceremonies. I was seeking experiences to deepen my spirituality and connection torepparttar 131307 earth. I was also looking for ways to reclaim my wholeness and resolve some ofrepparttar 131308 fear that I had learned to live with. I became interested inrepparttar 131309 sweat lodge ceremony because it offersrepparttar 131310 opportunity for purification and a chance to face some core fears and issues. It also symbolizesrepparttar 131311 safety and nurturing womb of mother earth.

I accepted an invitation to participate in my first sweat lodge ceremony with a Cherokee elder. I shared that auspicious day with 8 other women. We spentrepparttar 131312 day preparing for what was to be a rather intense experience.

When it was time to enterrepparttar 131313 lodge, I followed tradition and removed my clothes. I crawled on my hands and knees in to this very small, structure made of bent tree limbs covered with tarps and blankets. Once insiderepparttar 131314 dark, musty lodge, sitting onrepparttar 131315 bare, cold ground shoulder-to-shoulder withrepparttar 131316 other women I began to feel a bit claustrophobic and nervous.

Open up The Flow To A Fulfilled Life

Written by Helaine Iris


I had a really neat experience this morning. I was having a conversation with a friend when he suddenly asked me to chat with his wife and briefly explain what "life coaching" was about. Although I was a bit surprised by his sudden request, I happily agreed.

Within seconds, I heard his wife Meg cheerfully greeting me onrepparttar other end ofrepparttar 131299 phone. She began by explaining that she was inrepparttar 131300 middle of "cleaning gunk fromrepparttar 131301 drain," but she wanted to know what life coaching was all about. I took a deep breath, preparing to give her my quickest rap, and out of my mouth popped "life coaching is like cleaningrepparttar 131302 gunk out your drain."

Afterrepparttar 131303 power of that image sunk in, and I wondered if he thought I was crazy, I realized life coaching is exactly like cleaningrepparttar 131304 gunk from our drains. Life coaching is about clearingrepparttar 131305 gunk from our lives!

Our lives can be full of debris and gunk that interruptrepparttar 131306 effortless flow of a purposeful, passionate and fulfilling life. The gunk accumulates and gradually zaps our energy and creative passion, usually without us even noticing it. Many people learn to tolerate it, and some eventually experience a crisis, an illness, or simply find themselves wondering "is this all there is?" These arerepparttar 131307 reasons most of my clients come to me.

Here arerepparttar 131308 top 6 sources of gunk that could be blocking your flow. I invite you to take a minute and considerrepparttar 131309 following possibilities:

1. Limiting beliefs Have you ever stopped and listened to whatís going on inside your head? We are so full of shoulds and woulds that we donít even know what we truly think or feel. No wonder we have difficulty imaginingrepparttar 131310 life we want. The first step in changing our lives is changing our thinking.

2. Draining relationships Are you happy? Are you loved for exactly who you are and do you love without condition? Everyone deserves emotional fulfillment. Developing balanced partnerships add quality to life.

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