I have learned a couple of things.

My wife, Susan and I had been married for about 6 years before my daughter, my oldest child Andrea was born. I cut umbilical cord and almost immediately began to wonder how I was going to teach her. How could I lead her. How was I going to be all knowing FATHER figure, I was sure I was supposed to be.

I wondered if I would have wisdom in me to guide her through life’s biggest decisions.

How could I guide her as she chose a career when I wasn’t sure what I wanted to be when I grew up?

How could I instill in her wisdom necessary to choose a husband when my own wonderful marriage was a series of happy accidents, blind commitment and amazing providence.

How could I help her find her way spiritually and morally. The questions I anticipated were just so DEEEEEPPPP! And I was just so shallow.

I know now that you start with small stuff.

As a mother of two sets of fraternal boy/girl twins, I am often asked, “How do you do it?” I do not have an answer. I am just a regular 27 year old who has never known it any other way. Most people come home from hospital with one baby. I, however, always seem to come out with a pair. Through my experiences, I feel that there is no such answer. Each child is a unique gift with their own personality, likes, dislikes, and own sense of self. I have no master plan. I deal with each moment as it comes and try to remember that these are best days of my life. There are moments, I must admit, that I feel like my day will never end and my own personal identity is withering away. A smile or hug from my children washes this feeling away. I am a mother chosen for this great adventure and I press on.

For your reading pleasure, I have listed my ABC’s of Raising Twins. Enjoy!

A – Advice. Upon egg fertilization, you have become a target of every woman who has given birth. Remember that all these bits of information come with good intentions. You may be surprised at what you’ll learn.

B – Bottles. Give your baby a bottle, and in minutes, you will find a baby and no bottle. Bottles have an invisibility power that only weakens as milk starts to clabber.

C – Carpet. Remember it like it was. Tell all of your friends that having a recliner in middle of your living room floor is “in” this season.

D – Diapers. This one’s a no-brainer. Clip those coupons and buy in bulk.

E – Energy. Your little bundles of joy come heavily equipped. You, on other hand, will question your ability to breathe.

F – Fingerprints. You will have twenty on every wall, window and mirror around. Good news! They’re a fast and easy cleanup.

G – Grandma. She’s ultimate spoiler. Did she really raise you?