Who are you?

Written by Mark Claridge


I have a question for you.

Who are you?

This may be a simply enough question but before you attempt to answer this question let us go on a voyage of personal self discovery which will allow you to find an acceptable answer.

The difference betweenrepparttar “Living” andrepparttar 122787 “Non Living” isrepparttar 122788 existence ofrepparttar 122789 spiritual soul that managesrepparttar 122790 physical body from birth to death. The soul expresses itself throughrepparttar 122791 five senses ofrepparttar 122792 physical body. Withoutrepparttar 122793 soul,repparttar 122794 physical body cannot express or maintain itself.

The reflection you see when you look into a mirror will be that of your physical body which gradually ages. Your soul is “seen” through your personality. You may look old when you look in a mirror but you could feel and act like a child.

The soul is your mind that is not constrained by time or distance. Within a second your mind can race back to your youth or visit any place your thoughts may pull you towards.

Souls cannot be seen. The understanding ofrepparttar 122795 soul is limited becauserepparttar 122796 soul is spiritual and cannot be explained or understood withrepparttar 122797 knowledge ofrepparttar 122798 physical laws of sciences.

The soul or mind is similar torepparttar 122799 tiny microprocessor of a computer system that obtains information from input devices likerepparttar 122800 keyboard and processesrepparttar 122801 information and communicates via its output devices such asrepparttar 122802 monitor and printer. The microprocessors RAM and Rom memory are similar torepparttar 122803 soul’s conscious and sub-conscious memory respectively.

Likerepparttar 122804 microprocessor,repparttar 122805 soul obtains information viarepparttar 122806 body’s sense organs (input devices) processes them with memory of past experiences in its conscious and sub-conscious mind and communicates withrepparttar 122807 outside world via one or more ofrepparttar 122808 bodies organs (output devices).

For example, when something “nice” is seen, heard, smelt, tasted or feltrepparttar 122809 signals (input) are processed as pleasing and positive. This createsrepparttar 122810 positive response of a smile or laughter. The overall response is one of attraction rather than repulsion and should be repeated rather than avoided.

The soul is a tiny point of energy and functions on three levels that may be broadly categorised asrepparttar 122811 Mind, Intellect and Impressions.

The function ofrepparttar 122812 mind is to imagine, think and form thoughts based on emotions, desires and sensations. Happiness and sadness are created and experienced byrepparttar 122813 mind but displayed byrepparttar 122814 physical organs of your body. The function ofrepparttar 122815 Intellect is to accessrepparttar 122816 thoughts created in your mind. It hasrepparttar 122817 capacity to reason, memorise, discriminate and make decisions. It is your conscience that discriminates between right and wrong actions.

The Impressions arerepparttar 122818 memory of actions that become ingrained inrepparttar 122819 soul. The actions especially when repeated become habits, tendencies, emotions, temperaments and general personality traits.

Perfectionism - The Dangerous Trap

Written by Allie Ochs


Perfectionism – The Dangerous Trap

Just when I have something figured out, along comes another how-to-article telling me how to be or do something better or even change my entire life. No matter where I turn, I am constantly reminded that I am not good enough in more ways than one. I am not smart enough, not rich enough, not slim enough, not efficient enough, not pretty enough, not powerful enough, not “with it” enough and probably “out of it” altogether.

That’s me and it gets worse. In line with our education economy, yesterday’s perfect diet is banned today and my car ofrepparttar year was just recalled. My time-management is out of date and my writing achievements fade againstrepparttar 122786 big authors. Yes, I am my own worst critic. Growing up with perfectionist parents didn’t help either. It wasn’t until their seventies, that my father could tolerate fingerprints on his freshly washed car and that my mother learned to enjoy a meal without matching table décor.

Perfectionism is driving us uprepparttar 122787 wall or aroundrepparttar 122788 bend and neither direction is desirable. No wonder half ofrepparttar 122789 population is on Prozac andrepparttar 122790 other half copes on some other crutch. We live under constant pressure to be perfect and expect nothing less from others. Intensely glued to information that helps us conform to some perfect ideal, we learn less about ourselves. Detached fromrepparttar 122791 core of who we are, we show up with fabricated selves to gain approval.

There is quite a difference between aiming for a successful life or relationship and trying to achieve perfection. Contrary to popular belief, perfection is not required to succeed in love and life. In fact,repparttar 122792 perfectionism-trap has serious negative consequences:

·We feel our accomplishments are never good enough ·We don’t achieve personal satisfaction ·We value people based on their achievements ·We believe doing our best doesn’t cut it ·We take mistakes personally and hesitate to try again ·We are afraid to show our flaws ·We are vulnerable to rejection ·We do what we should, not what we want ·We set impossible to reach goals ·We are hard on others and ourselves ·We expect perfection of others ·We develop a obsession with perfectionism ·We feel we never measure up ·We fear failure in relationships and have difficulties being intimate ·We don’t pursue a relationship out of fear it might not be perfect ·We become critical of our partners

To sum it up, we believe that unless we are perfect success and love will evade us. The biggest cost of perfectionism is our neglect ofrepparttar 122793 humble core within and our failure to claim a life in alignment with our true self. Instead of focussing on our qualities and all that is right with us, we are busy fixing everything seemingly imperfect. Driven to live up torepparttar 122794 perfect ideal we become pretentious, self-promoting, critical human beings. Because of our focus on achieving goals, we never enjoyrepparttar 122795 journey of getting there. As a result we loserepparttar 122796 irreplaceable moments of relating to people and doing things.

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