Where You Want To BeWritten by Peter Murphy
Barry was on phone in his office, speaking with confidence, energy and passion.
In his office were a number of removal men working quickly moving furniture out door to van parked outside. Before long office was bare except for some old files, a cracked picture frame and a parched plant.
Just then a tall man in a dark suit entered building with a swagger. He found Barry still on phone, standing in a corner of empty office. His voice echoed around empty room as he finished his conversation and hung up and placed phone back on floor.
Barry reached into his pocket to find his keyring, he selected car key and reluctantly handed it over. The man in suit grabed it before walking outside and driving off at high speed in car.
John walked in to see Barry just as all of this was happening. He was surprised at how relaxed and confident Barry was given circumstances. You see, Barry had just lost his business and removal men had arrived to repossess his furniture while car leasing company had taken back Rolls Royce because payments had fallen into arrears.
John was here for same reason - to collect an unpaid debt. Although it was clear now that there was little chance of getting any money. So John and Barry did a deal. If Barry would teach him how he could be so cool in face of pressure than debt would be regarded as paid.
This is what Barry said to him:
**The big secret in life is to train your mind to think only about what you want to happen and to keep your thoughts off of what you do not want. Despite fact that I have just lost my business, my car, and my office I just got off phone, before it gets disconnected, after negotiating what could be one of my biggest deals ever.
Top Ten Steps to Focus on Achieving What You Really WantWritten by Wendy Hearn
1. Write a list of everything you want in all 8 areas of your life. Physical environment, Health, Friends/Family, Work/Business, Partner/Relationship, Fun/Recreation, Personal Development, Finances. When you can clearly see everything you want, your choice of focus is more balanced.
2. List all things you don't want to have and then turn them around to identify what you do want. It's often easier to identify what you don't want and this enables you to focus on what you do want.
3. Define your vision, i.e. what you see as possible and then remove from your lists anything that doesn't fit. Your unique vision comes from within you, allowing you to focus on what's really right for you personally.
4. Remove from your lists anything you feel pushed to do either by yourself or others. When you only have things you feel pulled and drawn towards, it's more exciting and easier to achieve.
5. Tell yourself truth about what you really want. There's often a lot of fear involved in being truthful, even with ourselves. Face up to this fear and by being truthful, you'll have a clearer picture of what you really want.
6. Stop trying to choose what to focus on and step back by taking time for yourself to either read, be with friends, laugh, play, have fun, discover and dream. These activities allow for new possibilities, different perspectives and a freedom to make choices based on clarity, rather than pressure.