When Failure is a Gift

Written by Angie Dixon


I wanted, for many many years, to be a mystery writer. Finally I wrote a mystery novel. I got a best-selling novelist to be my mentor and help me withrepparttar rewrite. I got an agent. They sentrepparttar 129482 book out. And sent it out. And sent it out. And it went nowhere.

I tried writing another book, and my mentor told me to dump it and start a third book. I did, but couldn’t get intorepparttar 129483 idea andrepparttar 129484 book never materialized.

Which is all okay, because today I’m a life coach, something I’ve wanted to do for a long time and which allows me time to write if I want to, and I never would have gotten here if that book had been published.

You see, I can write part-time while I coach as a profession, but if that first book had been published, I would have seen myself as a mystery writer and nothing else. That’srepparttar 129485 mindset I had atrepparttar 129486 time—“I’m going to be a mystery writer full-time.”

What Being vs Doing Really Means

Written by Angie Dixon


So often we hear about “being” rather than “doing.” Often it’s given as advice when we are overwhelmed, overworked and overstressed. “You should just ‘be.’ You’re doing too much.” Well, yes, obviously, but what does that MEAN? How do we just be?

I happen to thinkrepparttar people saying this don’t even really know what it means and are just giving it as a platitude, trying to help, but it doesn’t help if you don’t know how to implement it.

Here are some ways in which being is different from doing.

Hearing vs. Listening

If I really “hear” you, I understand what you’re saying and, more importantly, what you’re not saying. I grasprepparttar 129480 full import of your words and silences. I’m not just listening with one ear. I’m really getting you.

Learning vs. Studying

I can study all day long, but if atrepparttar 129481 end ofrepparttar 129482 day all I really know is what’s going to be onrepparttar 129483 test, it doesn’t do me much good. Learning is about absorbing what’s being taught. Once I’ve learned something, I don’t need to study itrepparttar 129484 next time.

Coming to Believe vs. Deciding

Decisions can be arrived at two ways—by coming to believe this isrepparttar 129485 right course, or by “deciding” this isrepparttar 129486 right course. You’ve heardrepparttar 129487 term “executive decision.” Often that means I’ve just decided something without reference to any outside sources or even to what I really think. By coming to believe something, I’ve made an authentic, informed decision.

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