What are secrets to surviving and thriving in midst of life circumstances and situations which seem unfair and undeserved? Our ability to deal successfully in such situations is key to peace and calm--the joyous life.

My initial reaction to bad events is to take action-do something. But key is not what to do, but who to be. Life is bringing circumstances we face for a reason. You may not understand reason immediately--maybe not for some time. But assume there is a reason and it is perfection of life, so embrace it.

Then step back and observe what is happening from a distance. Pretend it is one year later and you are looking back at current situation. Remember that this is not end of world--you are an immortal soul and what is happening is simply experience of human life.

If you grew up in 80s like I did, you might remember group Depeche Mode and their hit "Just Can't Get Enough." It is a song about being obsessed with idea of being with someone, about needing another person. Romance easily becomes this addiction when we believe that we are not complete without someone else and that we simply cannot get enough of blissful feeling we get when we are with him or her. When we believe we need romance to be complete, we are in trouble for we are perfect and complete, connected to world at all times - we merely need to choose to acknowledge that we are.

In a very special way, romantic relationships are that journey back to love, back to knowing that we are all part of a macrocosm called Life and that we can access wonders of love, compassion, understanding, harmony, peace and more, simply by making such choices.

Physically, we're all made basically same way, save for gender differences. But whether one is Madonna, Prince Charles, me, you or waitress that served you lunch today, our bodies all operate in a similar manner. The way we behave and our ideas about things stems from psychological differences. Different ways in which we think cause us to make certain decisions.