Whatever You Fear Has Already HappenedWritten by Susan Dunn, MA Clinical Psychology, The EQ Coach
That huge elephant, I thought to myself for 100th time, tethered on that tiny stake. They can weigh up to 7 tons, and there was this huge elephant rocking back and forth, kept from moving more than a few feet by … an electric fence? 25 armed men? No, by a small chain on a tiny stick.
How can this happen? How has it forgotten what it’s capable of? This can happen to any mammal, including you and me, and here’s how.
We have three brains – reptilian, limbic and neocortex. (See The EQ Foundation Course© - http://www.susandunn.cc/courses.htm ).
Reptiles have only reptilian brain, primitive brain that keeps heart beating, regulates instincts, pumps oxygen through lungs. They’re born miniature adults and already know all they’re going to learn. So there’s no need for parents to teach. Reptiles don’t bond with their young; in fact they’ll eat them if they don’t scurry away.
But little elephant calf is well cared for. This is where limbic brain comes in, one we share with all mammals. It’s how we bond and where emotions come from.
The young calf is cared for by all females in herd. They gather ‘round to celebrate its birth, trumpeting, and spinning, with temporal secretions running down their temples. They feel bond.
Meanwhile, mother must get baby up on its feet to nurse, or it won’t survive. It already has to learn something. And in this process, too, all young females are learning about mothering. The hormones and limbic brain drive it all.
Mind, Body, Spirit Healing vs. Traditional Psychotherapy/PsychoanalysisWritten by Dorothy M. Neddermeyer, PhD, MSW, CCH, CRT
The word "psychology" is combination of two terms - study (ology) and soul (psyche), or mind. The derivation of word from Latin gives it this clear and obvious meaning: The study of soul or mind. This meaning has been altered over years until today, this is not what word means at all. The subject of psychology, as studied in colleges and universities, currently has very little relationship with mind, and absolutely nothing to do with soul or spirit. It is important to understand that words and ideas are supposed to refer to something. "The tree in yard" refers to an actual thing that can be seen, touched and experienced. A person walking a dog at dawn" refers to an actual event that can be seen, observed and experienced. The realm of mind is an actual realm that can be experienced, and at one time there were words that accurately referred to this realm. Dictionaries define "Psyche" as: 1. The spirit or soul. 2. The human mind. 3. In psychoanalysis, mind functioning as center of thought, emotion, and behavior. Dictionaries define "Soul" as: 1. The spiritual or immortal elements in a person. 2. A person's mental or moral or emotional nature. Traditional psychotherapy/ psychoanalysis fails to address all-important relationship to one's true spiritual nature. Traditional spiritual practice often bypasses -and thus fails to transform - psychological conditional patterns and unconscious beliefs that arise from our personal histories and adaptations. In modern psychotherapy we treat symptoms because symptoms can be quantified and identified, or so it is claimed by traditional modern medical and psychiatric practices. Thus Emotional Pain is described in terms of symptoms—Depression, Anger, Anxiety, Panic Attacks, Self-Esteem issues, Mood Swings, Compulsive Behavior, Chronic and Acute Fear, Self-Injury, Suicidal Thoughts, Shame, Guilt, Eating Disorders, or Addictions) does not heal itself. Time, marriages, children, success, wealth, buying a bigger house, or faster car, changing jobs or relocating will not CURE it. The damage is sometimes very deep, pervasive and profound. It is a soul injury. The person has been robbed of his or her integrity, core identity and trust. Emotional, Physical or Sexual trauma in childhood is 'violence' that does not require force. The child is thrown into a ‘state of shock.' For some memories remain conscious, while others drive them beneath conscious level. The coping mechanisms child used are carried into adulthood and impact person's life on every level—Emotional, Physical, Mental, Behavioral, Spiritual, Sexual and Relationships. While these coping mechanisms were appropriate then, they are a 'problem' in adulthood. Traditional mental health professionals ask: "What is wrong with you?" or "What happened to you?" Asking, "What is wrong with you?" or "What happened to you?" implies blame, sickness and fault. Asking, "What did you experience growing up?"—allows person to begin process of discovering source of their pain and healing wounds. Traditional psychotherapy/psychoanalysis neglects fact that we feel, sense, and experience global political mass consciousness, as well as our individual consciousness, like never before. A Mind, Body, Spirit approach addresses all three, therefore opening door to true balance and healing. Well-being comes from understanding of Self, family, local community in which we live, and global community of which we are part. We are each one heart of Whole; each heart here to express its unique piece of Whole. Knowing Self creates a sense of "I as a piece of this Whole," different and one at same time. The process of understanding Self, family, local community and global community has its foundation rooted in metaphysics. Metaphysics is science, which investigates first causes of all existence and knowledge. It seeks to explain nature of being, origin and structure of world, in relationship between ethereal and physical. Metaphysics holds that soul or spirit and physical body are one yet separate; here applied psychology of religion comes to bear. The metaphysician's teachings help soothe emotional and physical problems of youth and maturity, illness and death. Herein, a transformational process occurs between work of Facilitator and that of individual. Because metaphysician or doctor of metaphysics can serve as both a facilitator as well as a source of spiritual comfort, he or she espouses universal spirituality through holistic health. Metaphysical Healing a.k.a. Transpersonal Healing is process of reconnecting person with their inner being. Reconnecting can be achieved through meditation, introspection and over time accessing our inner self, however, few people have discipline, inclination or know how to affect this process. Therefore, employing help of a professional who practices Mind, Body Spirit Healing/Transpersonal Healing will quickly establish foundation for empowerment, self-esteem, peace of mind and on-going spiritual and emotional growth. The facilitation of process is exceedingly easy. The person sits in a slightly reclined position with eyes closed while facilitator assists person to access their "Higher self." The "Higher self" refers to part of you that has highest possible perspective of who and what you are and why you decided to be here this lifetime. Your higher self loves you more than you can possibly love yourself consciously, and strives constantly to direct your personality self. The "personality self" is who we think we need to be in order to be safe here; opinions and instincts of our personality self have developed since moment we individualized in womb, and perhaps before.