What is your Recovery Rate?Written by Graham and Julie
What is your recovery rate? How long does it take you to recover from actions and behaviours that upset you? Minutes? Hours? Days? Weeks? How long? The longer it takes you to recover more influence that incident has on your actions, less able you are to perform to your personal best. In a nutshell longer it takes you to recover weaker you are and poorer your performance.Just ask yourself: How many times have I got upset with my spouse or partner for something children did hours ago? How many times have I missed an opportunity because I was still focussed on an upset and all I could say was ‘NO’ to everything? How many times have I driven my car erratically because I was still thinking of an incident that made me angry? The point is: a poor recovery rate affects your health. A poor recovery rate affects your well being. A poor recovery rate stops you from living to your potential. You are well aware that you need to exercise to keep body fit and, no doubt, accept that a reasonable measure of health is speed in which your heart and respiratory system recovers after exercise. Likewise faster you let go of an issue that upsets you, faster you return to an equilibrium healthier you will be. The best example of this behaviour is found with professional sportspeople. They know that faster they can forget an incident or missed opportunity and get on with game better their performance. In fact, most measure time it takes them to overcome and forget an incident in a game and most reckon a recovery rate of 30 seconds is too long! How long does it take you to recover and overcome and forget and incident at work or at home? A method that I and many others use to help us reduce recovery time is method of FULL STOP. Imagine yourself to be an actor in a play on stage. Your aim is to play your part to best of your ability. You have been given a script and at end of each sentence is a full stop. Each time you get to end of sentence you start a new one and although next sentence is related to last it is not affected by it. Your job is to deliver each sentence to best of your ability. Now think about your life. Imagine life is no more than a play, a drama and we each have a role to play in that drama. Your job is to play your part to best of your ability and better you play your part more chance that you will inspire others around you to improve their performance. Each incident you face is a new sentence. Just put a full stop behind it and start again. Accept that every time you meet someone or have a conversation with a person on telephone or even send an email it is a new incident. You have both moved on since you last met, so remembering last occasion only keeps you in past and stops you moving forward. Stops you seeing new opportunities. The next time you see person that upset you, or you upset, is a new occasion there is nothing to be gained by continuing from where you left off. The incident has finished. You are both in a different place now. It is a new sentence so start again. My grandmother used to call it destiny. “Accept what has happened as part of your destiny and live with it”, was a favourite phrase of hers. You cannot change what has happened. Sulking or Brooding will not help. Analysing will only give you a headache and keep it fresh in your mind. In same way that you cannot enter same river twice, you will never face exact same incident again so why analyse that one? You can however notice whether you have a habit or thought pattern that clicks in in certain circumstances and stops you performing to your best. You can then look at habit and decide how you can change it.
| | Communication Is The Difference Between Winning and LosingWritten by Raju Gavurla
The ability to "communicate with a focus" (action) plays a vital role. Regardless of our occupation, individuals who excel in a specific field and are able to communicate this knowledge to benefit others and themselves always win. Be attentive to your presence, voice, body language, eye contact, and actions. Communication has many forms and when used properly you win. Democracy and capitalism form a communication system allowing us to work with one another. In United States, political campaigns are abundant because 2004 is a Presidential election year. Will George Bush be reelected, Democratic candidate, or an Independent? A political campaign is won on ability of a leader to communicate to people their path forward for a better future. Newly elected President Franklin D. Roosevelt said in his inaugural speech, "let me assert my firm belief that only thing we have to fear is fear itself - nameless, unreasoning, unjustified terror which paralyzes needed efforts to convert retreat into advance." Everyday we wake up with a positive winning attitude or a negative losing attitude. The choice and decision is yours. A positive winning attitude communicates life is fun and your a success. A negative losing attitude communicates opposite. Therefore, wake up with a positive winning attitude. There is no cost and it has numerous mental and health benefits. Your ability to communicate determines whether you have a winning sales call. The next time you communicate with an individual, focus. It will differentiate you and should give you a competitive advantage. It takes practice. Your lunch meetings will be more meaningful and when you say "hey" and talk to your significant other instead of heading straight upstairs your personal life will be more meaningful. Selling will become a winning proposition. If I receive good communication from players, coaches, and fans during a sporting event, I know we will win. The players communicate to me by making plays. If my team intercepts ball, I cheer. If my team allows a touchdown, I'm not cheering. The announcer and scoreboard also inform me of who is winning game. I wish I knew every language in world. Could you imagine ability to connect with people? When two people don't know same language communication still takes place. In Washington, DC I parked my car, began walking, saw a man and woman making what appeared to me to be abusive gestures. His face looked thwarted and so did hers. In my mind, I was to calm situation and I thought
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