What is Normal Sexuality in Marriage?

Written by Maggie Vlazny, MSW

What Is Normal Sexuality in Marriage?

Everyone wonders about this. Do our friends "do it" more often than we do? Does anyone else have this problem in which one partner has high desire, andrepparttar other one has little to none? We must be really weird. Everyone wants sex, don't they?

The answer is no. Not really. More than 40 million Americans feel stuck in low-sex or no sex marriages. Research studies tell us that 1 in 3 women and 1 in 7 men reported little to no sexual desire. Sometime in a marriage more than 50% of couples experience one or both partners with little to no sexual desire.

Desire problems arerepparttar 122019 most frequent complaint of couples entering sex therapy. They are also oftenrepparttar 122020 unspoken complaint of couples entering relationship therapy.

In our sex saturated culture, this particular difficulty has a stigma, doesn't it? It's ok to admit to having a drug problem or mood disorder. But a sexual problem? No way! We're all supposed to be sexual superstars in our intimate relationships, aren't we?

Actually, sexual anxieties, inhibitions, and problems arerepparttar 122021 norm. We're afraid of not doing it "right", like in movies and books. "Right" would be intercourse, with both parties craving each other allrepparttar 122022 time and having simultaneous orgasms every time they're intimate.

Wrong! Healthy sexuality means giving and receiving touching that is pleasurable. It is not goal oriented, but process oriented. (The journey, notrepparttar 122023 destination.) It allows both partners to enjoy pleasure. It varies. Sometimes one or both has an orgasm. Sometimes not. And that's ok. What's not ok is not caring about yours or your partner's needs.

Should I Spy? - Spying on Your Cheating Spouse is NOT Revenge

Written by Dr. Robert Huizenga, The Infidelity Coach

Do not use what you find on your cheating spouse as ammunition for revenge. Sure, you may have wonderfully violent fantasies of what you would really like to do to him/her andrepparttar other person. This is very normal. But, donít act them out.

Using what you find to extract revenge will only lengthenrepparttar 122018 time of pain and anger. It will undermine your integrity as a person, lower your personal standards and make you exceedingly unattractive.

Resistrepparttar 122019 temptation to slingrepparttar 122020 mud!

Keep what you find to yourself.

The obvious signs of a cheating spouse disturbed you. You spy becauserepparttar 122021 truth will set YOU free. The quickest cleanest way to break free fromrepparttar 122022 extramarital affair is to set your focus on you as you navigate your way throughrepparttar 122023 difficult weeks and months.

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