What happens when during the baby shower?Written by Randy Wilson
To be precise, anything can happen anytime as long as everyone enjoys it. There is no right way or wrong way—anything goes well. But idea should be to make everyone comfortable and make mom-to-be feel proud and happy at her shower.
Showers are a great tradition to congratulate new mom and her family, shower her with lots of gifts and blessings. Games are lots of fun and especially good to play if guests do not know each other well. In that case games act as a big icebreaker. Typically, three to five games are played at a baby shower, depending on how much time each baby shower game takes. The winner of each game sometimes is given a small gift from hostess as a prize.
Basic Tips And Hints:
- Be prepared! Have enough pens, pencils, erasers and paper on hand for any game you decide to play.
- If it is a couples shower, include games that men and women both can enjoy.
- Try to include party games that mom-to-be can participate in from her cozy chair.
- Have gifts for winners such as: scented candles, potpourri, crystal vases, picture frames, address books, day planners, movie passes, plants, coffee mugs, gourmet coffee, hand mirrors, bath soaps, flowers, etc.
Although traditional showers were “ladies only” celebrations, these days men are also being included. The baby shower is usually held about 4-6 weeks before or after birth. Literally there are no specific guidelines to celebrate baby party, just plan what you think everyone will enjoy.
However, a well planned and an easy-flowing shower can be something like this:
- You should do thorough planning to invite everyone close to mom-to-be and her family.
- Send invitations well ahead of time around 4-6 weeks in advance.
- If you have a special theme let everyone know on invitation.
- To plan a surprise baby shower or not should be decided carefully.
Oneness in Marriage (Part 1)Written by Murphy Toerner
People get married for a variety of reasons: •companionship •love •security •it's next logical step after college or after launching from one's family of origin •procreation •to appropriately satisfy sexual desires •it is a holy institution designed by God •others... There are many other possible reasons...! The one we want to focus on is "oneness." We believe that people get married to experience "oneness" or a "shared reality" with another human being. When two people get married they have: •a shared history •a common language •a deep sense of companionship •a sense of security...among other things. The idea of "oneness" is rooted in Genesis 2:24 --"the two shall become one flesh." The Revel Bible Dictionary (pp. 673-674) explains this phrase..."the two shall become one flesh" in follow way. It suggests "the close bonding of individuals who love one another as equals and who can relate on every level of human personality...[It] implies that husband and wife will experience joys and sorrows of this life ... together." We assert that "oneness" is achieved when each person: •Is interested in what is going on in other's life •Accepts other [willingly receives] and intentionally purposes to take good with bad •Tries to understand other person...to know them thoroughly. It includes factoring in effects of one's family of origin and effects of one's life experiences prior to marriage •Is committed to learning other person's primary love languages: time, talking, toughing, gifts, or acts of service •Is interested in goals, hopes and dreams of other person and desires to help them achieve these goals •Is sensitive to fears and insecurities of other person •Willing participates in (to an appropriate extent) other person's life "Oneness" is not a foreign concept for a believer in Jesus Christ. We are one with Him when we begin our "born-again" journey with Him. When we ask Him into our "hearts", we become "identified" with Him. This is a type of "oneness". God designed marital relationship to project to world type of relationship we have with Him. When we fulfill this goal of connecting with our spouses (oneness), we give world a tangible picture of what our relationships can look like (with another person and with God). Remember, we (the church) are called "the bride of Christ" in New Testament.