Depending on level of consciousness, true love can mean something completely different for different people.

On level of physical well-being, love is satisfaction of vital sensual needs and expression of bodily pleasure and vitality on base of an intimate relationship.

If there is a distortion on that level, sexual love turns into sex addiction or sexual dependency. In such a case you see other as an object of your satisfaction. In sex addiction you satisfy your need for bodily stimulation, in sexual dependency your need for affection.

On level of personal well-being you care for what is best for you and what makes your life fulfilled. The task on this level is to acknowledge and truly love yourself with all your strengths and weaknesses.

If you do not know or appreciate your own value, you make yourself dependent on appreciation and love of others. You need others to fill yourself not on sexual level as before but on emotional-mental realm. You demand appreciation, identity and self-confidence. You enter relationship as somebody who needs love rather than somebody who is willing to give love.

On interpersonal level, you look for somebody, who compliments you, stabilises your self worth and satisfies your needs. According to law of attraction you fall in love with somebody, who looks for same.

The dilemma is that two dependent people who are attracted to each other for satisfaction of their dependency needs are not in position to fulfil each other’s wants. They cling to each other like two burrs, without being able to give each other nourishment of true love that each one longs for. The frustration of lacking fulfilment leads to anger and hate.

Some spend their whole life playing this game of love and hate. Others separate and look for a better substitute. Usually exchange ends in same drama, if you refuse to unfold your potential.

If you on personal level have found to yourself and you know your value, you also recognise and acknowledge it in others. When you are satisfied with yourself you don’t request other person to change for your own sake.

On contrary: You will support him/her to unfold his or her potential. You stand back, if necessary, or you stand at his/her side. You share your strengths and weaknesses, allow yourself to be vulnerable and in that way deepen intimacy of partnership.

Two topics that have attracted a lot of interest ever since I brought Keys To Power online more than a year ago are hypnotism and covert persuasion techniques. The Keys To Power system itself uses hypnosis for personal conditioning, but doesn't really get into using hypnosis to influence others. With Keys To Power, we generally influence outcome of various situations (including behavior of others) by directing Power to create experiences we want. However, this doesn't stop us from looking into other systems that may make our lives easier, and being able to persuade other people to our way of thinking definitely makes life easier.

I've been reading a lot lately about some of deeper, more obscure aspects of hypnosis. This has been mostly to increase effectiveness of Keys To Power techniques and hypnotic recordings I've been creating for our members here. However, course of this study has put me square in middle of covert hypnosis topic, and I must say, it's extremely fascinating.

I've learned that my definition for hypnosis has been profoundly altered. Hypnosis is not always about putting someone into a trance state, but simply a process of communicating with inner mind. This communication can be performed while listener is in a completely normal, waking state of consciousness.

In fact, one of most celebrated leaders in hypnotic field (Milton Erickson - a name I recognized from earlier studies) used to practice psychological counseling using a radically different form of hypnosis in which subject never knew they were being hypnotized. Erickson, and his radically different form of hypnosis, became one of sources for what is now known as NLP, or Neuro-Linguistic Programming.

NLP is used by many different types of people. Psychologists, personal coaches (such as Anthony Robbins), business people, sales people, parents, and artist all use NLP to help them attain higher levels of personal excellence and to influence others to do same. The simplest description of what NLP is would be "a system of modeling excellence and setting triggers for recreating that excellence on command". As you can imagine, this requires a very complex and involved collection of techniques and processes.

Covert hypnosis (or more socially acceptable term, conversational hypnosis) is about using identifiable language patterns to create a desired response in listener's inner mind. Once you know these techniques, it is relatively easy to talk to someone about practically anything and have it be a hypnotic process. For example, you can talk to a casual acquaintance about your job at factory and end up with that person practically begging you to take them out on a date! On conscious level, you said nothing that would suggest that they should go out with you, but by way you phrased things and how you said what you said, their inner mind not only received implied suggestions, but responded by compelling them to act on those suggestions!

Imagine how much smoother your life will be with these techniques. No more confrontations. No more arguments. The people in your life doing what you want them to do, and not because you are commanding their obedience, but because they feel an inner desire to do these things.