What does true Love mean to you?

Written by Ulla Sebastian


Most people long for or have an image of a true love that they nourish or search for all their life.

Depending onrepparttar level of consciousness, true love can mean something completely different for different people.

Onrepparttar 126094 level ofrepparttar 126095 physical well-being, love isrepparttar 126096 satisfaction of vital sensual needs andrepparttar 126097 expression of bodily pleasure and vitality onrepparttar 126098 base of an intimate relationship.

If there is a distortion on that level, sexual love turns into sex addiction or sexual dependency. In such a case you seerepparttar 126099 other as an object of your satisfaction. In sex addiction you satisfy your need for bodily stimulation, in sexual dependency your need for affection.

Onrepparttar 126100 level of personal well-being you care for what is best for you and what makes your life fulfilled. The task on this level is to acknowledge and truly love yourself with all your strengths and weaknesses.

If you do not know or appreciate your own value, you make yourself dependent onrepparttar 126101 appreciation and love of others. You need others to fill yourself not onrepparttar 126102 sexual level as before but onrepparttar 126103 emotional-mental realm. You demand appreciation, identity and self-confidence. You enterrepparttar 126104 relationship as somebody who needs love rather than somebody who is willing to give love.

Onrepparttar 126105 interpersonal level, you look for somebody, who compliments you, stabilises your self worth and satisfies your needs. According torepparttar 126106 law of attraction you fall in love with somebody, who looks forrepparttar 126107 same.

The dilemma is that two dependent people who are attracted to each other forrepparttar 126108 satisfaction of their dependency needs are not inrepparttar 126109 position to fulfil each otherís wants. They cling to each other like two burrs, without being able to give each otherrepparttar 126110 nourishment of true love that each one longs for. The frustration ofrepparttar 126111 lacking fulfilment leads to anger and hate.

Some spend their whole life playing this game of love and hate. Others separate and look for a better substitute. Usuallyrepparttar 126112 exchange ends inrepparttar 126113 same drama, if you refuse to unfold your potential.

If you onrepparttar 126114 personal level have found to yourself and you know your value, you also recognise and acknowledge it in others. When you are satisfied with yourself you donít requestrepparttar 126115 other person to change for your own sake.

Onrepparttar 126116 contrary: You will support him/her to unfold his or her potential. You stand back, if necessary, or you stand at his/her side. You share your strengths and weaknesses, allow yourself to be vulnerable and in that way deepenrepparttar 126117 intimacy ofrepparttar 126118 partnership.

The "yes" torepparttar 126119 other person is a necessity to providerepparttar 126120 safety to master a crisis together. The relationship is an instrument of growing together, and growth means an imbalance in time. This imbalance however does not endangerrepparttar 126121 relationship, but releasesrepparttar 126122 potential for creative solutions.

Covert Persuasion Techniques

Written by Alan Tutt


Covert Persuasion Techniques by Alan Tutt bttp://www.KeysToPowerPersuasion.com

Two topics that have attracted a lot of interest ever since I broughtrepparttar Keys To Power online more than a year ago are hypnotism and covert persuasion techniques. The Keys To Power system itself uses hypnosis for personal conditioning, but doesn't really get into using hypnosis to influence others. Withrepparttar 126093 Keys To Power, we generally influencerepparttar 126094 outcome of various situations (includingrepparttar 126095 behavior of others) by directing Power to createrepparttar 126096 experiences we want. However, this doesn't stop us from looking into other systems that may make our lives easier, and being able to persuade other people to our way of thinking definitely makes life easier.

I've been reading a lot lately about some ofrepparttar 126097 deeper, more obscure aspects of hypnosis. This has been mostly to increaserepparttar 126098 effectiveness ofrepparttar 126099 Keys To Power techniques andrepparttar 126100 hypnotic recordings I've been creating for our members here. However,repparttar 126101 course of this study has put me square inrepparttar 126102 middle ofrepparttar 126103 covert hypnosis topic, and I must say, it's extremely fascinating.

I've learned that my definition for hypnosis has been profoundly altered. Hypnosis is not always about putting someone into a trance state, but simply a process of communicating withrepparttar 126104 inner mind. This communication can be performed whilerepparttar 126105 listener is in a completely normal, waking state of consciousness.

In fact, one ofrepparttar 126106 most celebrated leaders inrepparttar 126107 hypnotic field (Milton Erickson - a name I recognized from earlier studies) used to practice psychological counseling using a radically different form of hypnosis in whichrepparttar 126108 subject never knew they were being hypnotized. Erickson, and his radically different form of hypnosis, became one ofrepparttar 126109 sources for what is now known as NLP, or Neuro-Linguistic Programming.

NLP is used by many different types of people. Psychologists, personal coaches (such as Anthony Robbins), business people, sales people, parents, and artist all use NLP to help them attain higher levels of personal excellence and to influence others to dorepparttar 126110 same. The simplest description of what NLP is would be "a system of modeling excellence and setting triggers for recreating that excellence on command". As you can imagine, this requires a very complex and involved collection of techniques and processes.

Covert hypnosis (orrepparttar 126111 more socially acceptable term, conversational hypnosis) is about using identifiable language patterns to create a desired response inrepparttar 126112 listener's inner mind. Once you know these techniques, it is relatively easy to talk to someone about practically anything and have it be a hypnotic process. For example, you can talk to a casual acquaintance about your job atrepparttar 126113 factory and end up with that person practically begging you to take them out on a date! Onrepparttar 126114 conscious level, you said nothing that would suggest that they should go out with you, but byrepparttar 126115 way you phrased things and how you said what you said, their inner mind not only receivedrepparttar 126116 implied suggestions, but responded by compelling them to act on those suggestions!

Imagine how much smoother your life will be with these techniques. No more confrontations. No more arguments. The people in your life doing what you want them to do, and not because you are commanding their obedience, but because they feel an inner desire to do these things.

The techniques that I've found are not difficult to use. They do take a little practice to perfect, but then again, anything worthwhile takes some practice to get right. Part ofrepparttar 126117 process is simply getting intorepparttar 126118 right mindset. In classic sales training literature,repparttar 126119 concept ofrepparttar 126120 assumptive close comesrepparttar 126121 closest torepparttar 126122 secret of conversational hypnosis. When you assume thatrepparttar 126123 person you're talking to wants to follow your plan, you are much more likely to userepparttar 126124 right phrasing in your speech.

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