What Parents Should Do For Children To Do Their Best After Divorce?

Written by Ruben Francia


Why do some children still do best after divorce and separation? Is there divorce parenting approaches that really work? Read and learnrepparttar divorce parenting approaches that really work.

Going throughrepparttar 110833 process of divorce is a challenging life transition for both parents and children. During their parents' divorce, children often feel a wide variety of conflicting emotions. It is very important for parents to provide their children with understanding and support. Overall,repparttar 110834 children who do best after divorce and separation are those whose parents dominantly employ 5 divorce parenting approaches. They:

1. Listen to children and nurture an independent and empathic relationship with each of them. 2. Fully supportrepparttar 110835 children's relationships withrepparttar 110836 other parent making them feel loved and wanted in both homes. 3. Develop positive strategies for setting limits and imposing appropriate discipline. 4. Continue to hold reasonably high expectations forrepparttar 110837 children, regardless of trying circumstances. 5. Shieldrepparttar 110838 children from their parental disagreements and resentments.

Each ofrepparttar 110839 above is presented here below in great detail.

1. Listen to children and nurture an independent and empathic relationship with each of them.

To better help our children we must first understand them. To be able to understand them completely, we need to listen and create an environment favorable for them to speak out. To make things happen, you need to:

· Encourage your children to talk about how they feel. Let your children know that they can openly talk to you about their feelings of your separation or divorce. · Keep lines of communication open and answer all questions aboutrepparttar 110840 changes. Make sure your children feels like they can ask you questions and get answers about whyrepparttar 110841 divorce happened and what to expect. · Convey that you are genuinely interested in their input. This will make your children feel they are participating in contributing torepparttar 110842 process of recovering fromrepparttar 110843 divorce.

2. Fully supportrepparttar 110844 children's relationships withrepparttar 110845 other parent making them feel loved and wanted in both homes.

Research tells us that children benefit from keepingrepparttar 110846 familial ties in their life that were meaningful and important to them prior torepparttar 110847 divorce. Of these familial ties,repparttar 110848 most important arerepparttar 110849 child-parent ties. Remember that divorce does not end children's need for parents or it ends your role as parent. You should:

· Recognize that for your child to haverepparttar 110850 best chance of growing up to be a functional human male or female, he/she will need both parents as role models and nurturers. This means that there should be some pathway of getting through torepparttar 110851 child whatever good that parent has to offer. · Respect your child's needs to have both parents there for them, without having them worry that they are going to die of embarrassment if you both start to fight in public. Encouragerepparttar 110852 other parent to stay involved inrepparttar 110853 children's school and extra-curricular activities. · Allowrepparttar 110854 children to enjoyrepparttar 110855 time that they spend with each parent. Encourage your children to spend good times withrepparttar 110856 other parent. Don't be jealous or upset, as children do not want to take sides and love one parent more thanrepparttar 110857 other. · Help your children and ex-spouse have a successful relationship as just as you would help your children to succeed in school or sports. Remember that your ex-spouse is an important part of your child's life. Just like you, your children have a shared history with this person as well asrepparttar 110858 present and future.

3. Develop positive strategies for setting limits and imposing appropriate discipline.

Often after a divorce parents will either become stricter or more lenient. Some parents feel likerepparttar 110859 other parent is lettingrepparttar 110860 child get away with everything; therefore, they attempt to enforce discipline across both homes. Other parents do not want to spendrepparttar 110861 limited time they have with their child punishing them and tend to be too lenient. It can be difficult for children when their parents have drastically different rules and expectations. To giverepparttar 110862 child a sense of stability and security, you should dorepparttar 110863 following:

Fall - A New Season - A New Decorating Scheme

Written by Bonnie P. Carrier


What exactly is fall? Being my favorite season, I decided to look it up and see how Mr. Webster defines it. Flipping to “fall” I found “autumn”, OK, turning to that it reads, “autumn,repparttar season that comes between summer and winter”. Well, that’s pretty cut and dry and I think most of us already know that, so here is my interpretation.

“Autumn; cool days leading into brisk nights. Fresh picked apples, leaves ablaze with color, pumpkins, gourds, Halloween, Thanksgiving and a brand new opportunity to decorate your home”.

I’m not sure about you, but one ofrepparttar 110832 reasons I loverepparttar 110833 fall is withrepparttar 110834 cooler temperatures, I seem to have a renewed energy level. Daily activities are suddenly not such an effort. Think aboutrepparttar 110835 things you can do with this newfound energy. Giving your home a good cleaning (after all who wants to do that when it’s 90 andrepparttar 110836 humidity level is so high it feels like it could rain inside your home), sorting through and discarding unwanted items in closets, drawers and cupboards. Admiring mother natures magnificent color show while taking walks withrepparttar 110837 family or a favorite four-legged fur baby.

As mentioned above, this is also an opportunity for change in your homes décor. Now I’m not talking about a complete redo, just adding accessories that are fall related is all that’s needed.

Add some warm throws overrepparttar 110838 back or arms ofrepparttar 110839 furniture, change outrepparttar 110840 accent pillows to something with a fall print or warmer colors, even just one or two pillows can make a difference.

Swap out summer flower arrangements for new ones that have a fall theme. Take a walk around your yard or in a neighborhood park or state forest and look for things to use, like unusual shaped twigs, pinecones, acorns and seedpods. Mixing these with store bought silk mums, preserved leaves or cat -o-nine tails in any type of container you may have will give a fall look to any surface.

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