What Do You Truly Value Most?

Written by Brian Maloney


What Do You Truly Value Most?

By Brian Maloney

Believe it or not, values are inrepparttar core of all of us. These underrated rankings tell more about us than we could ever imagine. Yet, many of us overlook this extremely important portion of our lives.

Why do we?

Because so many of us get caught up inrepparttar 129371 race of life and flying ahead of others becomes more important. If becoming a better person everyday is important to you, (and it should be) you need to make this crucial evaluation before ever progressing forward.

Lets say hypothetically you have a lot of personal issues unresolved, for whatever reason. In addition, you realized that due to your being so self absorbed, you arerepparttar 129372 highest value in your respective life and always have been.

Whew! A lot to have realized.

Your partner, child, job, friends, religion, car and pets are all inferior to your number one position. This has a lot to do with your feeling a lack of personal security that can be made to feel secure by centering yourself inrepparttar 129373 spotlight at all times.

The world owes yourepparttar 129374 favors!

This mindset is ultimately destructive and counter- productive at best. Although, you do as much as needed to hide this characteristic of your personality, your thickened veneer will grow more transparent asrepparttar 129375 days go on. The people you hold most dear will eventually see right through it.

By not holding your partner and children inrepparttar 129376 number one position, you are not only taking their love for granted, but in time setting yourself up to losing them, or at best, they will grow to resent your obvious narcissism.

The fact is that everyone inrepparttar 129377 world has naturally selfish tendencies. How would we anticipate a reward for a job well done without thinking of ourselves?

To what degree do we keep this selfish viewpoint close torepparttar 129378 chest? That is a very important question to always ask yourself.

Balancing this aspect of your heart and your intentions with this question could certainly berepparttar 129379 single most important question you ask yourself throughoutrepparttar 129380 course of your life.

If ranked properly, your values can dictate your future by holding yourself below rather than atrepparttar 129381 top. Your interpersonal relationships will be guided by this ranking.

However, this is not something you can fake!

This point cannot be said more emphatically. Introspectively gaze into your heart and truly ask yourself this poignant question.

If you still come out of that experience with yourself asrepparttar 129382 most important, than your living too selfishly. Additional introspection would definitely be indicated at that point to gauge what is most important.

How to Share Power in a Relationship: The Five Cs of CoCreation

Written by Paul & Layne Cutright


As a species, we are gradually moving from self-centered, adversarial uses of power to collectively sharing power forrepparttar mutual benefit of everyone. We are shifting from a paradigm characterized by “me or them” to “me and them.” We are lifting ourselves intorepparttar 129368 realm of co-creation. It's going to take more than good intentions for us to pull this one off. We're all going to have to learn to think and behave differently in our business-as-usual routines. We offer yourepparttar 129369 5 Cs of co-creation as a map for your exploration of this new and uncharted territory. Use them in working with other people, deciding how to proceed, and in resolving differences. COMMITMENT - Set your intention by deciding together what everyone wants to accomplish. Do you feel enthusiastic about this? Do you talk about it together often? What obstacles do you foresee, and how can you deal with them? COMMUNICATION - Createrepparttar 129370 environment for successful co-creation. Our relationships live in language, so what we talk about and how we talk about it determinesrepparttar 129371 emotional climate of our relationships. Does your communication style foster safety and creativity? Are you communicating readily, honestly, and openly? Are there things you are afraid to discuss that need to be discussed? Are there any recurrent communication breakdowns, and is there a strategy in place so they can be avoided inrepparttar 129372 future? Does your communication include acknowledgment and gratitude? Is everyone giving effective feedback? Are you communicating your unified purpose to others in inspiring and enthusiastic ways? COOPERATION – Cultivaterepparttar 129373 necessary attitude, where working together is motivated by an inner passion, not being forced by fear andrepparttar 129374 need to go withrepparttar 129375 flow of others' intentions. Are you able to find a common path through adversity, or is it everyone for themselves whenrepparttar 129376 going gets tough? Are there any competing egos vying forrepparttar 129377 spotlight atrepparttar 129378 expense of others? Are you clear onrepparttar 129379 benefits of cooperation in this creative endeavor? What is at risk if you don't cooperate? COLLABORATION – Use synergy so that everyone's ideas are vital torepparttar 129380 whole. Are you able to express your ideas freely, without fear of judgment or ridicule? As a group, are you asking BIG questions that bring forthrepparttar 129381 talent of everyone involved? Isrepparttar 129382 system in which you are working set up to receiverepparttar 129383 avalanche of creativity you can generate? COORDINATION - Synchronize action. What'srepparttar 129384 plan? Does everyone have an overview of how allrepparttar 129385 different parts are working together? Are you clear on individual areas of responsibility and accountability? What arerepparttar 129386 consequences, if any, for failure to perform? How often and in what form (phone, meetings, e-mail) do you need to communicate with one another in order to coordinate effectively?

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